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Jun 25, 2019, 09:06 PM
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Tonight I found a lot of porn on his side of the computer. I just found a link to free porn videos link under the most visited search. He came home right away so I closed it before opening it up.
maybe he is trying to feel more sexual...we have not been having sex in many many years. I asked him about it in the car coming home from san antonio tx last weekend. He said it was his fault to, not in the mood. "maybe I need to take viagra" I think he has been doing porn for a long time. Maybe that is because he is doing porn???? what do you think? bizi
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Jun 25, 2019, 10:21 PM
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It very well could be, but we don't know for sure. Until he is ready to stop denying that it's happening, confronting may not help.
I'm sorry you are going through this, and thank you for sharing! |
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Jun 25, 2019, 10:39 PM
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Thank you for your note.
bizi
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Jun 26, 2019, 03:13 PM
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So, it sounds to me, based on what you've written here, that the real issue may lie with you, not your husband. It sounds like him watching porn bothers you and makes you feel humiliated and/or guilty only because you two haven't been having sex in years (i.e. you think that if the two of you were having sex, he wouldn't be watching porn). And since you haven't had sex in "many, many years," as you put it, it sounds like the issue of your nonexistent sex life has only become an issue because of your discovery of him watching porn--that is, it isn't something that would have necessarily become an issue if you hadn't discovered porn on his computer. In your post, you don't express any kind of desire to have sex with him or say that you've been bothered or frustrated all these years by the lack of sex in your marriage--rather, it sounds like you're simply feeling guilty, like you haven't fulfilled your wifely "duties"/obligation and have thus made him turn to porn (porn being a bad thing, in your view). Maybe you two aren't having sex for the simple reason that you don't want to with each other. This is normal. Promising to only be attracted to your spouse for the rest of your life is crazy. But if you plan to stay together, then you might want to see a marriage counselor about this to help you reconnect sexually with each other. Or just get used to him watching porn and don't think of it as a bad thing. |
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Jun 26, 2019, 09:19 PM
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Thank you for your note...I think marriage counseling is a good idea.
bizi
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Nov 20, 2019, 05:51 PM
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Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
 Hugs to you 
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Dec 08, 2019, 03:30 AM
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That might be hurtful but he's not a lost cause because discontinuing porn use rewires our brain to become more responsive and connected to our sexual partners again. I was a porn addict for years and while some sexual imagery seems impossible to escape from, constantly in entertainment, music, film, books, social media I don't go out of my way to view anything and it doesn't destroy my relationships anymore. I don't have issues with women anymore. If you're interested there's a program and app called covenant eyes that can be placed on the computer and phone. It works as an internet filter and blocks out access to porn sites. It also has an accountability report that can be sent to your partner. So whenever he finds a way to look at porn or is searching something porn related it will send screenshots to your email and you guys can talk about it. Screen Accountability™ | Covenant Eyes It's a little pricy at $16 a month but it's worth it and you can do a month for free. I've been using it for a while now. |
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Dec 09, 2019, 05:37 PM
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