[abusedtoy]

I was able to overcome sexual lust for many years and I hope this could help someone who is in need. I was throwing away all the physical stuff that has to do with it, so that I will not be close to it and kept it as a reminder. I too was deleting all digital things that has to do with sexual lust, including all photos, videos and music that are related to it. I then started using a children-friendly, anti-virus blocker kind of program that helped me to block all websites that have anything to do with pornography. Gradually, the urge to think and to act on it has become less and less overtime. It was the hardest the first few months, then about a year, I started to stay in this safe bubble, and then a few years later I have found out that I have completely overcome this and made clean myself. I feel a lot better too afterwards. It also has to do with one's mentality, the way one dresses in modesty (being conscious about it) and the way one speaks. So, what I have done to overcome it was that I started to dress modestly, without too much revealing, speak only things that are not dirty and think about things that are opposite than anything to do with sexual lust, because I think there is much more in this life than about being addicted to this, which I know many people have struggled with it. But, here is my success story...I am able to overcome it when these refraining of things have become a habit. Also, I always have a moral sense in my mind that something is not right, because sex is solely meant for reproduction. If one's mind is always consumed with sexual lust, this could hurt families and others around them. Being a sexual abuse survivor, the trauma that was caused will always be there. Just my humble thoughts.

[CrayCentral]

This is an awesome success story, I’m so happy for you and I hope life is a lot easier and more fulfilling for you!

Somebody important to me is at the peak of her nymphomaniac behaviour and because I’ve broken her heart a few years back she really went through a traumatic experience and used that as an excuse to explore all her sexual fantasies. 4 years past and she cannot let go of our relationship, yet acts veery mysterious all the time as if she’s battling some serious perverted demons in her mind.

I know she wants to live a free hippie kind of love without bounds so she’s able to explore, but is there a point where sex addiction becomes a problem without being bound by anything?

[abusedtoy]

Originally Posted by CrayCentral

This is an awesome success story, I’m so happy for you and I hope life is a lot easier and more fulfilling for you!

Somebody important to me is at the peak of her nymphomaniac behaviour and because I’ve broken her heart a few years back she really went through a traumatic experience and used that as an excuse to explore all her sexual fantasies. 4 years past and she cannot let go of our relationship, yet acts veery mysterious all the time as if she’s battling some serious perverted demons in her mind.

I know she wants to live a free hippie kind of love without bounds so she’s able to explore, but is there a point where sex addiction becomes a problem without being bound by anything?

I'm sorry to hear about this traumatic experience between both of you, CrayCentral. I reckon that she may use this addiction has a way to cope with her depression caused by the trauma itself. Although, there is a better way to cope as what I have found out, without all these sexual addictions. In my experience, sexual addictions made me even more depressed, somehow. Just my thoughts, because yes, it seemed like it was the answer, but after getting out of this sexual lust, I feel so much better. The way to describe it, it to say that there are things in this life that are, IMHO, far so much better than being trapped into this. A feeling of guilt left me and a peace of mind knowing what I am doing is the right thing. There was a conviction in my heart that what I was doing was wrong. It is such a natural conviction and once I have left this, I feel renewed in the spirit.

[CrayCentral]

Originally Posted by abusedtoy

I'm sorry to hear about this traumatic experience between both of you, CrayCentral. I reckon that she may use this addiction has a way to cope with her depression caused by the trauma itself. Although, there is a better way to cope as what I have found out, without all these sexual addictions. In my experience, sexual addictions made me even more depressed, somehow. Just my thoughts, because yes, it seemed like it was the answer, but after getting out of this sexual lust, I feel so much better. The way to describe it, it to say that there are things in this life that are, IMHO, far so much better than being trapped into this. A feeling of guilt left me and a peace of mind knowing what I am doing is the right thing. There was a conviction in my heart that what I was doing was wrong. It is such a natural conviction and once I have left this, I feel renewed in the spirit.

Thanks for replying.. What you’ve suggested is exactly what I wanted to hear. Because my girlfriend resents me to past experiences she takes everything defensively and tries to rebel against me which I find so immature. Although I’d really love for her to read this from someone credible.

Thanks so much for the advice!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by abusedtoy

I was able to overcome sexual lust for many years and I hope this could help someone who is in need. I was throwing away all the physical stuff that has to do with it, so that I will not be close to it and kept it as a reminder. I too was deleting all digital things that has to do with sexual lust, including all photos, videos and music that are related to it. I then started using a children-friendly, anti-virus blocker kind of program that helped me to block all websites that have anything to do with pornography. Gradually, the urge to think and to act on it has become less and less overtime. It was the hardest the first few months, then about a year, I started to stay in this safe bubble, and then a few years later I have found out that I have completely overcome this and made clean myself. I feel a lot better too afterwards. It also has to do with one's mentality, the way one dresses in modesty (being conscious about it) and the way one speaks. So, what I have done to overcome it was that I started to dress modestly, without too much revealing, speak only things that are not dirty and think about things that are opposite than anything to do with sexual lust, because I think there is much more in this life than about being addicted to this, which I know many people have struggled with it. But, here is my success story...I am able to overcome it when these refraining of things have become a habit. Also, I always have a moral sense in my mind that something is not right, because sex is solely meant for reproduction. If one's mind is always consumed with sexual lust, this could hurt families and others around them. Being a sexual abuse survivor, the trauma that was caused will always be there. Just my humble thoughts.

Hey thanks for your advice. This has help me in a lot of ways.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by abusedtoy

I was able to overcome sexual lust for many years and I hope this could help someone who is in need. I was throwing away all the physical stuff that has to do with it, so that I will not be close to it and kept it as a reminder. I too was deleting all digital things that has to do with sexual lust, including all photos, videos and music that are related to it. I then started using a children-friendly, anti-virus blocker kind of program that helped me to block all websites that have anything to do with pornography. Gradually, the urge to think and to act on it has become less and less overtime. It was the hardest the first few months, then about a year, I started to stay in this safe bubble, and then a few years later I have found out that I have completely overcome this and made clean myself. I feel a lot better too afterwards. It also has to do with one's mentality, the way one dresses in modesty (being conscious about it) and the way one speaks. So, what I have done to overcome it was that I started to dress modestly, without too much revealing, speak only things that are not dirty and think about things that are opposite than anything to do with sexual lust, because I think there is much more in this life than about being addicted to this, which I know many people have struggled with it. But, here is my success story...I am able to overcome it when these refraining of things have become a habit. Also, I always have a moral sense in my mind that something is not right, because sex is solely meant for reproduction. If one's mind is always consumed with sexual lust, this could hurt families and others around them. Being a sexual abuse survivor, the trauma that was caused will always be there. Just my humble thoughts.

For me it was a way to deal with what had happen to me after surviving attempted rape. Than out of curious as to how I could better protected myself from ever being attack. Regardless that I still felt dirty for what had happen to me.