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Well hi there!
just left therapy about an hour ago, figured Id sign up and see if this group could help me. Ive been diagnosed with Bipolar, Depression & Anxiety and just recently my therapist have been recommending SLAA don't no much about it but im determined to do my best so that I can stop messing up my life. It seems I have commitment issues with everything. The moment I get comfortable and too happy I find a way to mess it all up and sabotage my life again. Its a pattern, I've done it countless times and quit over 20 jobs because of it. I have no idea why im like this, and next **** up will be my marriage (My only Stability) if I don't stop screwing around. Im so lost & just trying to find my way. Thanks for reading! |
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Hello MermaidLove: I believe this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.
There are of course forums, here on PC, dedicated to the subjects of depression & anxiety as well as to bipolar disorder. Here are links to these forums: https://forums.psychcentral.com/depression/ https://forums.psychcentral.com/anxi...c-and-phobias/ https://forums.psychcentral.com/bipolar/ And then here are links to a bunch of articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the topics of managing depression & anxiety, & living with bipolar disorder, as well as (since you mentioned your therapist recommending SLAA) some articles related to the topic of sex & love addiction: In-Depth: Living with Bipolar Disorder 10 Small Steps You Can Take Today to Improve Bipolar Disorder https://psychcentral.com/lib/living-...ression/?all=1 https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-smal...iety-symptoms/ https://psychcentral.com/lib/top-10-...dium=popular17 https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-pr...on-withdrawal/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/workin...-love-addicts/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-12-...dium=popular17 https://psychcentral.com/blog/tellin...sex-addiction/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-12...s-in-recovery/ My best wishes to you... |
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Had not heard of it before so looked it up - is this it?
https://slaafws.org/download/core-fi...ps_of_SLAA.pdf Seems extremely religiously loaded and judgemental, I would not be at all happy if my therapist recommended this for me. Personally having read each of these steps they seem more like indoctrination than therapy and potentially damaging. |
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__________________ True happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems, but when we change our relationship to them, when we see our problems as a potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice patience and learn.~Richard Carlson |
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So I see, I'd just not come across it before as an approach and was rather shocked tbh. I'm not wanting to get into a discussion about the religious aspects, that wouldn't be helpful to the OP, but I just suggest there are likely to be more up-to-date alternatives that are less judgemental and more evidence based that they could also explore.
For example this is one technique I use to help with impulse control: Riding the Wave: Using Mindfulness to Help Cope with Urges - |
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I actually like SAA better. There also is SA, and SRA. I think there is one more but I can't remember.
But I stopped going. I found another group that I like better. It all depends on you. Welcome to PC! |
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I found SLAA to be very helpful. I only went for a few months, but I can say that the lessons I learned have lasted a life time. Eventually, I DID get tired of the "overly preachy"ness of it (All the people in my group but one was a Christian and I was a fledgling Buddhist, but this may have more to do with my geographic location in SW Ohio than anything about the organization). After hearing Jordan Peterson and Russel Brand talk together, I was able to see the MERIT in the 12-step group without letting any of the religious themes get to me. But again, even though it wasn't a PERFECT fit, it was some of the best, FREE group work I've ever experienced. 9/10, would highly recommend, even for just a few visits to learn the basics.
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The fact that you've sabotaged over 20 jobs because of impulsivity tells me that you might be experiencing manic episodes. Do you take medication for your bipolar disorder? When I was working at a facility for mental illness, I had a couple of clients who really messed up their lives during manic episodes, and it could've been prevented with the right dosage of medication. __________________ "If you don't like something, change it, and if you can't change it, change your attitude." - Maya Angelou |
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__________________ "If you don't like something, change it, and if you can't change it, change your attitude." - Maya Angelou |
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