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Old Feb 13, 2019, 09:07 PM
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I haven't acted with another in 8 months 2 days. The longest I've ever gone. My question is this.

Is cuddling to close to the acting out phase of sex addiction?

Please weigh in soon.

I'm on the fence about it. He wants it, I want it but what if it goes too far?
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Old Feb 14, 2019, 03:16 AM
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I think a lot of it has to do with triggers and what occurred in the past that would lead you into active addiction.
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Old Feb 14, 2019, 06:09 AM
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If you think there's a risk, puzzclar, then I guess it's be better to avoid cuddling. I'm so sorry, I know it must be really hard for you. Please don't give up. I think you're handling all of this pretty well. I admire your strength and will. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. I believe in you. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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Old Feb 20, 2019, 01:49 PM
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I didn't go through with it. In fact I didn't receive any communication and now he could be in jail. I hope he stays that way. Oh and I blocked his phone number.
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Old Feb 20, 2019, 02:05 PM
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Good on you, puzzclar! I didn't know this guy was dangerous. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this You did well by blocking his phone number and cutting off contacts with him. I hope you'll never hear from him again. I hope things will get better soon for you. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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Old Mar 18, 2019, 12:40 AM
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When do I date again? Will I be able to date a good guy?? One that doesn't watch porn
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Old Mar 19, 2019, 04:58 PM
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When do I date again? Will I be able to date a good guy?? One that doesn't watch porn
Smiles...As soon as you mentally believe in yourself that you are ready to date again.
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I haven't acted with another in 8 months 2 days. The longest I've ever gone. My question is this.

Is cuddling to close to the acting out phase of sex addiction?

Please weigh in soon.

I'm on the fence about it. He wants it, I want it but what if it goes too far?
I mean if you like him as more than a friend than why not? What are you afraid is going to happen?
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Old Apr 02, 2019, 12:00 AM
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I mean if you like him as more than a friend than why not? What are you afraid is going to happen?
I broke it off, I didn't want to get raped again!
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Old Apr 02, 2019, 12:02 AM
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When do I date again? Will I be able to date a good guy?? One that doesn't watch porn
OMG that's terrible
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Old Apr 02, 2019, 12:05 AM
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Omg that's very difficult to live with. I'm sorry you experienced something so traumatic. Was he the one who did that to you?
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Old Apr 03, 2019, 10:59 AM
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Omg that's very difficult to live with. I'm sorry you experienced something so traumatic. Was he the one who did that to you?
Yep, that's what happened
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Old Apr 03, 2019, 04:25 PM
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Yep, that's what happened
Well then you did the right thing by breaking it off. Nobody has the right to invade your private space without your consent.
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