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I'm halfway through this book by Dr. David J. Ley. It's amazing.
I self diagnosed with Nonparaphiic Hypersexuality Disorder and now I'm starting to see why it never made it into the DSM-5. After going through counseling, going through SAA and trying my best to make it through recovery, I'm starting to realize that I got labeled a sex addict because I wanted more sex than my low libido wife. It's not her fault, I've had multiple counselors and they all jumped on the sex addiction bandwagon. Has anyone else read his book? The Myth of Sex Addiction thoughts? |
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I haven't read the book but I've read somewhere that sex addiction isn't considered too seriously sometimes because culture or society can make people feel that their sexual behavior is unacceptable or dangerous. Like some homosexuals can feel hypersexual when they act sexual around a lot of heterosexual men who don't return affection.
Also, sometimes sex is somewhat emphasized or maybe even more strict within marital environments. for instance, I feel I can have sex with as many unmarried women as I want now; but if I were to marry, then I'd no longer be able to have sex with other women because of my religion. In fact, there was some dude on this subforum before who said he didn't have much of an issue with porn until he got into a relationship. Is "The Myth of Sex Addiction" book available for free, electronically or elsewhere? It sounds interesting. __________________ schizophrenia: https://forums.psychcentral.com/schi...and-psychosis/ men: https://forums.psychcentral.com/men-focused-support/ sex addicts: https://forums.psychcentral.com/sexual-addictions/ sex issues: https://forums.psychcentral.com/sexu...-gender-issues |
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I've never read that book but I can tell you that I stopped believing in sex addiction as soon as Harvey Weinstein started using it as an excuse for sexually harassing all those actresses.
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a sexual addiction does not excuse sexual harassment though. it's like excusing a fatal hit and run on an alcohol addiction. trust me, it might lessen a sentence, but i know many men who've been arrested and fired for sexual harassment, some of whom harassed multiple women.
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I guess you could say you're addicted to anything but there's a reason why that specific addiction has never made it into the DSM. __________________ "If you don't like something, change it, and if you can't change it, change your attitude." - Maya Angelou |
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well, classified or not, it can be very important for men to realize the risk of their sexuality and to openly talk of their sexual health. some men who undermine their dangerous sexual behaviors can find themselves getting into trouble. Even before the #MeToo movement, some men were being reprimanded or burned to death for rape and adultery that could've been prevented. it's truly a sad thing when a man is destroyed for something as simple as not keeping his pants on. clearly it's sometimes an issue that could've been prevented through some form of sexual education, if the man was lucky enough to have parents who taught that.
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