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Nov 25, 2019, 05:22 PM
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Hello,
My boyfriend recently admitted to a porn addiction. This came out after I saw his YouTube search history, in which I saw he was watching videos of young girls (some pre-pubescent) in bathing suits, or doing gymnastics, etc. I confronted him, he admitted to masturbating to these videos and having a porn addiction. I'm spiraling right now, as porn addiction is one thing, but masturbating to videos of pre-pubescent girls seems to be a completely separate issue. He insists he hasn't watched anything that would be considered 'child pornography' (these videos on their own wouldn't be considered pornography). He also insists that he doesn't have any urges around children, but he is clearly sexually aroused if he was masturbating to these videos. We are currently in couples counseling and each in individual therapy. But I feel like I'm losing my mind. I can't talk to my family or friends about this. Am I crazy to stay with this man who has masturbated and fantasized about young girls? He has said he has stopped looking at porn, videos of young girls and other materials to masturbate to. He's attending sexual compulsives anonymous meetings. He's doing all the right things, but my gut tells me this is not OK. |
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Nov 25, 2019, 07:27 PM
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Hello bluejay: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.
 The Relationships forum, here on PC, may also be of interest to you. Here's a link:https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/ And then here are links to 8 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that provide information for partners of sex addicts: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Navigating a Relationship with a Sex Addict When You Are the Partner of a Sex Addict, Part 1 When You Are the Partner of a Sex Addict, Part 2 FAQs for Partners of Sex Addicts https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping...sex-addiction/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-stag...dium=popular17 https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex-a...dium=popular17 https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-12...s-in-recovery/ Here are links to 3 articles that may be of interest to your bf as well as you: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2...church-part-1/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2...church-part-2/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2...church-part-3/ I hope you find PC to be of benefit. 
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Nov 25, 2019, 10:35 PM
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I would not tolerate the pre-pubescent masturbation. That is not normal and it may be an addiction or not but its illegal and sick. I forget the statistics but some child porn viewers escalate the obsession into the real world- as in viewing children in the real world and sometimes grooming them. Was he using your internet connection? If he was then his tracks are on your isp.
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Nov 26, 2019, 04:04 AM
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See if you can install the software covenant eyes on his pc and phones, it sends partners frequent screenshots of screen activity and it will show any pornographic links he visits. I recently started a 30 day trial and will probably continue to use it. I don't have a porn addiction but I do relapse watching sometimes when I'm lonely. Also, check out organizations like fight the new drug. covenanteyes .com fightthenewdrug .org |
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