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Default Oct 05, 2022 at 06:10 PM
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I have been watching/reading porn or doing finding other ways to masturbate since i was about six years old. I was around that age when I first saw my parents having sex and I have been intriuged by it since then. As a kid I would hump my teddy bear and other things and would fantasies about doing it with my baby sitter practically everyday. That hasn't really changed now and I'm 33 and with my fiance and I'm constantly finding outlets of porn or talking with other women even talked a few girls and it got sexual. One almost to actually cheating. I don't think I'd actually follow thru with the cheating but its the thrill of talking about sex or masturbating when I can't have sex with my Fiance. I don't know what i can do to fix it or help abate it since its been going on for years. If there's anything I can do I'd be willing to do it to save my relationship.
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Default Oct 06, 2022 at 04:12 AM
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It is an interesting question. Do you think cheating is to think of different partners while masturbating?

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Default Oct 06, 2022 at 06:01 AM
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Getting into therapy would be a good idea.
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Default Oct 07, 2022 at 04:40 AM
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Getting into therapy would be a good idea.
Good Idea. Also there are medications that will inhibit you
physically and mentally from even thinking about sex.
But the bottom line here is that you have an addiction that
needs to be addressed in some way. Seek professional advice.

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Default Oct 13, 2022 at 02:58 PM
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I don't think it would be considered cheating to think about different people while masturbating. It would be if your masturbating while actually talking to a different person that's not your partner. At least that's what I think anyway.
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Default Nov 03, 2022 at 11:19 AM
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I have been watching/reading porn or doing finding other ways to masturbate since i was about six years old. As a kid I would hump my teddy bear and other things.
I've watched porn since childhood as well (Maybe around 10 or 11 years old?). I have humped 2 pillows before and used sex toys.

I'm not an expert, but I've found that there may be things that trigger the temptation to satisfy yourself. For example, my bed become a trigger to "self pleasure", but it becomes an issue if someone else is also in the same bed.

Have you tried urge surfing before? The idea is that you acknowledge that you have an urge to do something, but then bring your attention back to the current activity you are doing (Like working). It takes time to get the hang of it, but seems somewhat effective.

My guess is that overtime, things that used to trigger "self pleasure" goes away. So things like a specific time or place won't get you aroused much.

If you do try to reduce the amount of times you "self pleasure", be aware that you may get a bit grumpy after a few days (This happened with me).

I was going to suggest maybe using sex toys instead of talking to girls sexually. But I think might make it worse, since you may end up wanting the "next big thing" or "something better". It still might be worth experimenting with this to see if it works or makes it worse.
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