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Location: Louisiana
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Hi, I just joined today. I'm 36, been married for 17 years but I've been cheating on and off, for most of my marriage. Its been a struggle for me. My husband would catch me chatting or that I sent a picture to someone, I would delete my account and be good for months, sometimes a year but I've always went back to chatting and hooking up with random guys.
I love my husband, he's great to me, has sex with me often and I cum several times with him. I'm happy with my marriage and my life. ....but, the attention I get from guys, the hot hook up, even though the sex is bad, the feeling of helping guys out, thinking its hot to being used, etc. I often masturbate every night, even if I had sex that day.....but then I also have times I don't do it for weeks. I hook up on my lunch breaks sometimes. Had the desire for a ganging, etc. I feel guilty for hurting my husband, most of the time I force myself to try to forget the guys and keep that part of my life totally separate from my life at home. I don't exchange names, if any guys get clingy or bring up feelings, i stop chatting with them. I feel selfish because I kept telling myself maybe my husband will come around and be cool with maybe inviting a guy in our bedroom, so I wouldn't have to keep stuff hidden. But years later, him finding out in 2014 and just a few days ago, that I've been cheating with multiple guys, I know he will never be ok with me and other men, so I need to seriously get this under control because I'm done breaking his heart. So any advice? I'm not sure if I have sex addiction, or hyper sexuality, I'm still learning about this. Ive known for years I'm a nympho, I accepted that about myself and indulged and was very self destructive but I'm ready to really make a change. |
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Location: California
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I am much younger but I cheat on my boyfriend. I find the need, even the urge to cheat. I think I want to feel slutty. And then immediately after that I cry and bite my nails. I somehow feel that I need the sex yet don't want the sex. I sometimes rub on the arm of the sofa until I can orgasm (which never takes long). feel out of control in a major way.
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I would consider getting therapy from a therapist who specializes in sexual addiction. I am concerned that one of these men might harm or even kill you.
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Member Since Nov 2021
Location: India
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Try adopting some healthy diet. Reduction of sugar intake can actually reduce the sex urge.
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Member Since Jan 2022
Location: USA
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Not a therapist, but would definitely say it’s sexual addiction. Hyper sexuality in and of itself is not a bad thing; however, once the urges associated with it start to have negative impacts on your life, you are unable to control your actions, its self destructive….it’s time to seek help, I’d think. And there’s more than just hyper sexuality going on, as you mentioned the ideas of both using and feeling used, so I imagine there’s more depth to this than just being very sexual.
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I have to say that there’s a lot more going on here. Seems like you have serious
self hatred and low self esteem. There are reasons why your own self inhibiting mechanisms are not working too well. I think you definitely should be seeing a psychotherapist if possible. Your like an onion , whose many layers need to be peeled back to find the root cause of this very self destructive behavior. __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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