[Halen]

I think i'm addicted to porn/masturbation....I have to do it everyday if not i feel restless and annoyed.... I mean before i start i'm not horny or anything it's more of...ok lets get it over with...after i'm done i don;t feel any type of relief or anything and while i'm doing it i try to hurry myself to orgasm so that i can be over it.. I do masturbate multiple times a day, to the point to where it hurts the last couple of times i do it. It doesn't consume my life or money, but it always seems to be in my mind.

I was abused as a kid and once the abuse stopped the addiction began... I have no idea why... i mean the last thing i want is to somehow have a reminder of what happened but i can't stop....advice anyone?

[roses4me]

geez, the things we talk about here

firstly, I had 10 sessions with a sex therapist just for me and I am glad I did because now I know my own sexuality. My sexuality was all mixed up with my past.

I was sexually abused as a child and by an ex.

Having said that, masturbation is for me, by me. I choose what pleases me.... when, where, how long, etc. And I stop and start as I please. I think about a movie star or no one at all and just enjoy the sensations. I do not think about past abusers. They are not invited. And I often stop before orgasm because it is what pleases me.

also, there are two types of masterbation
1) in a couple
2) just for me
and I do not mix them up

It is like: there are two kinds of baths (a female thing)
1) by myself, for myself (bubble bath, candles, a glass of wine, soft music)
2) with my boyfriend as a kind of foreplay
My boyfriend does not get to interfere in my bath for me.
My boyfriend does not get to participate in my masterbation for me.
(There is couple masterbation time)

so my advice to you: masterbation should be YOUR time. Do it for yourself to please yourself... and DO please yourself and don't let any moron from your past join you.

roses

Hi Halen,

i was abused as a kid too and now have a full on sex and love addiction which includes watching porn and masturbating. But i've been able to limit myself to a couple times a week. I shoot for once a week but lately have been emotionally upset and so have done it more frequently. if you're doing it to the point that it hurts then something is wrong and you need help. I personally go to SLAA which is Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. it has helped curb my acting out for sure and the porn and masturbation. i would highly recommend this program, if you're ready to work on your issues.

love and hugs,
Tara

[Fanatiqual]

i dont know if this is helpful to you as i dont believe i was abused as a child. but i have basically lost the drive to have sex but i am a constantly masturbating. it has gotten to the point for me that i dont even derive joy from the act anymore and i can almost never achieve orgasm with another person. I feel the urge almost constantly throughout the day to watch pornography and fondle myself.
i dont know how to stop either. i just wanted to let you know that you are not so unusual.