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May 08, 2009 at 08:53 PM
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 I never thought that I would. But i made a choice to "come out" to my aunt. We were having a discussion about how I am very different from the home town I come from and am now living in, and I sort of opened it by saying "most of my friends in the city were in the LGBT Scene... and for that matter, I was in that scene too!" She asked franky "so is it ok if i ask are you gay, or straight, or bisexual? I know your not transgendered because you are very much a girl. You dont have to answer if you don't want to." And I told her, "well, I've always liked girls and guys. I don't think I have a preference." And thats where it ended. Shes very level headed, probably the most in our whole family, and so thats why i chose her. She didn't make a big deal out of it, only mentioning it once more when she joked i must be having a hard time finding dates in a town of less than 900! LOL. It went well. I still don't know about the rest of my family, definetly NOT my mom because she is homophobic. However, in time, maybe some others. |
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May 09, 2009 at 10:04 AM
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 Yay! Well that went pretty well huh?  I don't quite have the courage to do so yet but I applaud you! 
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May 09, 2009 at 02:03 PM
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Have you made any personal discoveries about how you feel since you came out to your aunt?
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May 09, 2009 at 06:45 PM
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Congratulations! What a wonderful aunt you have. You are lucky.
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May 10, 2009 at 02:44 PM
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Your mother might not be so homophobic if she knew that someone very close to her was gay or bi. You will be doing her a favor to educate her (when you are ready to do so).
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May 11, 2009 at 08:36 PM
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Congratulations!
When I came out to my parents our conversation was similarly brief.  Good luck with other people in your family when you feel ready. 
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May 12, 2009 at 06:23 PM
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May 14, 2009 at 08:31 AM
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That's wonderful!!
 I know when my parents found out that I had a girlfriend one time they went INSANE! So now, they think I'm straight because I just left that situation alone. But thats awesome that you had enough courage to "come out". I never came out, I just got caught lol! CONGRATULATIONS!! 
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May 16, 2009 at 10:48 AM
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I am hoping to have the opportunity to talk with other GLBT individuals about the role (if any) that internalized oppression may or may not have in your life and recovery from psychological symptoms. It would be great sometime to have a live chat with the members of the GLBT community here to discuss this topic. In my case, my father was a closeted gay man. In his time, being gay was a mental disorder, and he spent ten years of my early childhood in psychiatric hospital. Obviously, being gay was not his only problem. I'm interested in this topic for a number of reasons related to my PTSD, and the violent crime that touched it off for me two years ago had hate crime elements related to me being a lesbian. Thank you for sharing your delightful coming out story. I wish that everyone learn to be accepting of ourselves and who we are, warts and all. sky
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May 20, 2009 at 09:38 PM
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Congratulations! Big scary step. I've been there and was very fortunate for the most part. I am glad your aunt was okay with it.
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May 21, 2009 at 06:37 PM
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WTG! That is awsome!
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May 28, 2009 at 05:23 PM
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I came out to my Brother in December when he was in town because my Mother was in the hospital. I knew he wouldn't tell anyone else. I didn't want my Mom to find out. Mom passed away at the end of December and when my Sister was in town to help clean out her condo, I told her. Both conversations went well. Both were supportive and not at all judgemental. I have a partner that I've been with for a little over a year. I have several other gay guys that know but I'm not rushing into anything. Heck I just accepted it 4 or 5 years ago.
Congratulations on your courage. I hope it made you feel better. Joe |
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Jun 05, 2009 at 09:47 PM
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Im glad that it worked out for you so smoothley. My outing involved sooo much Draama and I am not even fully "OUT" yet lol.The wierd thing about coming out is that all your life you hide your true self and take on sort of a secret identity. never being able to say that that person is hot, or in some cases, never being able to adjust to social norms are just a few things that people who arn't "out" deal with. Once you do come out, it is a great feeling. You think, finaly you can be yourself. I hope that everything works out for you as far as coming out to the rest of your family.
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Jun 14, 2009 at 09:25 PM
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Nice one!
Your Mother will probably never accept it, in my case if I was gay, which I am not, my Mother would likely disown me! |
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