[crystalrose]

Being single is hard. especially when your mood changes and your feeling like having sex but don't want that sex that is casual empty and meaningless.
I want a good guy who shares some of the good values and faith as I do. But I am not sure on all my values on sex, all the time. Some men I am interested in have the same faith as I but are very strict on the sex guidelines. The faith I am is confusing because some say no sex before marriage. Too late for that. . . .! The denomination I was raised says absolutly no sex contact before marriage. Any way i'm being confusing and just writing thoughts. Advice would be appreciated just no debates remember pc guidelines.

[MickG]

I’m single and a few years ago after going through a bit of a spiritual crisis I was approached by a young woman who wanted to be my “buddy” just to get together for sex. I was at a point in my life where empty sex no longer was wanted but I seriously liked her. She was beautiful in many ways and though she said she wanted nothing further than a friendship that included sex I found I very much enjoyed my time with her.

The strange bit is when we got together for “just sex” it was far more than that to me. For the first time in a very long time I was able to truly make love. We went our separate ways shortly after (I had a psychotic breakdown and was unable to remain living near her) but we shared something very special and it meant something far more than a mere casual encounter.

I think you can experience a truly special bond with someone even if it is for just one night though I understand the conflict that may arise in regards to faith. I’ve chosen at this point in my life to not be with a woman who doesn’t make my heart sing or spirit dance.

My hope for you is that you find such a person. Be well.