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Mental Wellness Mensch
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Location: I live with myself. Because that is all I can depend on. Everthing around me changes.
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Jan 24, 2010 at 09:59 PM
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I am out now as a gay woman.
I am now seeing a woman. I can't be married to my husband anymore for that reason. We will always be friends. I am so glad he understands. But I feel now like I am exploring foreign waters. I am terrified. I love my new girlfriend. so much. Never met anyone like her! and I am so glad now that I am facing my big fear: my sexuality. B. __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness!  |
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Jan 25, 2010 at 12:50 AM
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May you find blessings along the path of finding your TRUE SELF.
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Location: Midwest
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Jan 25, 2010 at 01:15 AM
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I wish you happiness on your way to allowing yourself to be who you were born to be.
__________________ I have wandered the darkness, a place I call home, for a long time looking for peace, and there is peace even in here. I hope I can help you find your peace. |
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Pet Lady of Psychcentral
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Jan 25, 2010 at 01:49 AM
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Congrats on finding your sexual orientation. I know it must be difficult ending a marriage. We have a private GLBT group here on PC...it is private so you can feel safe. It is listed under social groups. Won't you join us?
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Jan 26, 2010 at 04:36 AM
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The first step toward happiness, is to be honest with yourself and who you really are, it sounds like you are off to a good start
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Jan 27, 2010 at 01:06 PM
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I'm happy to hear that you've found your true self.
I can only imagine how difficult the road has been for you to ride on. It's great that your ex-husband has accepted and supported you through the changes. That is wonderful! I wish you the best with self-acceptance and developing a happy, healthy relationship with your girlfriend. __________________ "Only in the darkness can you see the stars." - Martin Luther King Jr. "Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace." - Author Unkown |
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Feb 02, 2010 at 11:57 PM
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I am so happy for you! I support you and hope you have a healthy, happy relationship with your girfriend.
I know divorce is difficult no matter what the reason; still I'm sure it was the best thing for both of you. I know from personal experience that being in a marriage with some you don't love and aren't even attracted to is such a painfull way to live. We have a GBLTQ site here that you can always go to if you need support. 
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Feb 04, 2010 at 09:30 AM
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where is it? i really need it
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Feb 04, 2010 at 10:39 AM
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Its good to hear that he is supportive. That is awesome that you have someone you care so deeply about and who cares about you too. We're always here to support you through your soul searching!
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Feb 04, 2010 at 01:15 PM
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End It Now. It is in the groups area at the bottom of the page. You have to click on the site first and click join group.
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Feb 04, 2010 at 07:50 PM
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it will not let me post or join the group
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Feb 04, 2010 at 08:51 PM
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Go to the LGBTQ group, and where it says click here to visit this group, click on here. Then in the upper right hand corner it should say "Join Group" click on that. I had no problems with it. But then again, no one has really responded to me on there so I don't know if it is worth the effort. This forum topic is much more enjoyable to read.
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Feb 07, 2010 at 05:05 AM
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Just be open and honest with your girlfriend and I think you two will be very happy. I am so glad your x-husband understands and you continuing to be friends with him will be very healthy for you. Peace, Allen |
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Mental Wellness Mensch
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Feb 11, 2010 at 02:02 PM
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Update:
Things didn't work out with Lia, my gf. Because I am dealing with abuse issues, I can't be in an intimate relationship right now. My husband (haven't gotten the divorce yet) is being very supportive and is staying with me just to give me support in this painful time. I am not in a sexual situation right now. my ex is like a best friend, staying with me now. I feel sad. I wish I could be intimate. Billi __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! |
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Feb 12, 2010 at 01:32 PM
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Feb 19, 2010 at 12:19 PM
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Hi Billi,
So Sorry it did not work out with the girlfriend you had. I feel like it is the same in the gay and lesbian world, not to give labels, but it takes time to find the right person and to fall in love and form a relationship for life. I am glad that you have your x to support you during this and that you are friends, in retrospect is he pursuing a new woman? I hope that you can overcome your battle with intimacy and find a woman who can be your best friend, and life partner. Take care, kk101 __________________  If you think you have totally givin' up- you haven't, because you are here!
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Mar 17, 2010 at 10:33 PM
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Congratulations.
Where in the WORLD is the LIKE button for this? OH yeah, this ain't facebook, LOL.  Quote:
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Pet Lady of Psychcentral
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Mar 20, 2010 at 06:02 PM
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Billi, how are you holding up?
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Mental Wellness Mensch
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Mar 25, 2010 at 12:33 PM
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I have decided to stay with my husband.
Lia and I broke up on Valentine's Day. If you will look me up in the Abuse Survivors forum, I have an update as to why. I have discovered that I am bi, not gay. But I have decided to stay with a person who loves me, like Dane. Billi __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! |
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