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#1
Feb 08, 2010, 07:05 PM
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CSA briefly mentioned below...............................
In case the title wasn't obvious enough, my brother physically, sexually, and emotionally abused me when I was younger. The problem is that he still lives with us. My parents are aware of past goings-on, but to be honest they really just don't give a *****. He is CONSTANTLY telling me jokes and showing me pictures that are VERY inappropriate for a brother to be telling/showing his sister. I'm 17, I'm not a godd*mn little girl anymore, and I'd (literally) kill him before I ever let him touch me again, but this bothers me! How do I get him to stop???? (Short of kicking him where it hurts or smashing a chair over his head...though I'm tempted...)
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#2
Feb 08, 2010, 07:06 PM
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Oh btw I'm sorry I keep posting so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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#3
Feb 08, 2010, 07:24 PM
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heyyy
if it's really that bad, either move out or apply to a college far far away. i cannot believe that your parents let him still live in your house!! that's so inappropriate. honestly, i would try try try to be more vocal. bring it up to your parents. say, either he moves out or me, something along those lines. really being vocal is so imperative!! i am so unbelievably sorry for the sorrows that you have gone through... things will get better. they have to.
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#4
Feb 08, 2010, 07:28 PM
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I've been in contact with social services and because I'm 17 and graduate in less than 6 months, they really can't place me with anyone, but I have no one else to live with and I can't afford to rent a place on my own. I will move out ASAP (and I mean AS SOON as possible), but it will be at the very least a couple months more.
Should I talk to my therapist about it? Would she be able to do anything about it if I did?? Quote:
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Feb 08, 2010, 10:46 PM
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How old is your brother?....
If he in any way is sexual with you or abusive and your parents are obviously not doing anything, then I would shake the tree a little and call the police next time. If he does this with his own sister then what will he do with another woman.... He needs help with his issues and fast, because it seems he wil be a menace to society if he continues this way. Wish I could help more, but huggs to you. |
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Feb 08, 2010, 11:01 PM
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I agree with unconstruct. Tell him you'll call the police if he doesn't stop and follow through. The police should have been called before and yes tell your therapist. Your brother needs serious help!!!! If I were you, I would take karate and yes defend yourself if necessary. Also move out as soon as you can when you're financially stable. Be strong and I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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Feb 08, 2010, 11:03 PM
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19. And he's been to many different therapists, though none have helped because he's sociopathic. I've gotten very close to calling the police many times. I try not to think of how he treats others, because the only thing it will achieve is insanity (on my end).
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Feb 09, 2010, 02:35 AM
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As much as I hate to say it - the POLICE - may be your only way to SAFETY if this inappropriate sexual behavior rears its ugly head but once again.... you are older and can take control of your own life now.
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Feb 09, 2010, 02:51 AM
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Against a sociopath? He will convince the police that she is lying because that is what sociopath's do. Hang in there sweetie. We will come up with something. Keep posting. By the way, do you have a lock on your door?
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Feb 09, 2010, 04:41 AM
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Feb 09, 2010, 04:46 AM
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My situation was totally different but I told the person whose behavior was out of line that I would no longer tolerate that kind of behavior and the next time it happened I would call 911 and he could deal with the sheriff rather than deal with me. It helped.
Good luck.
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Feb 09, 2010, 06:21 PM
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Yes, I have a lock on my door. I have both threatened to call 911 and actually called 911 in the past; they have a record of the abuse. Nothing deters him. The only thing I can think of that may come of reporting him again would be to get him kicked out of the National Guard, but that would mean he's at home, so not such a good idea...
I told my dad last night, and I'm so happy he reacted the way he did. He got REALLY angry at my brother, and basically kicked him out on the street. I don't know if it will last, but at least now my dad's more serious about getting him out of the house long-term. It's good to have someone on my side  .Thanks for all the input guys  . I don't know what I'd do without PC...
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Feb 09, 2010, 06:36 PM
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That's good you have your dad on your side. That's horrible what you've been through. If he behaves himself for the national guard, why can he behave at home. He shouldn't be living at home. Be safe.
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Feb 09, 2010, 10:36 PM
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Yay for Dad.......... finally.
I hope that he does carry through for your sake. At 19 he is more able than you to move out. I hope things move on well for you..... 
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Feb 09, 2010, 10:56 PM
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May be try looking into how the National Guard deals with these matters Quote:
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Feb 10, 2010, 11:35 AM
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No, because unfortunately by the time I admitted it to anyone, it was past the statute of limitations.
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Feb 10, 2010, 03:33 PM
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I find it to be horrible what your brother is doing or did to you and as you stated he is sociopath behaviors, if you do not want to call the police, you can try and have him committed to a long term psychiatric facility for his behaviors, especially if you suspect he is trying this with other girls as well. If he is a predator that warrants him to be 'a danger to himself or others' which are grounds for a court commitment to a psychiatric facility.
Just another though or alternative idea? Take care, kk101
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Feb 11, 2010, 03:05 AM
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Feb 13, 2010, 06:48 AM
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Tell your therapist!! Call lthe police; unfortunately your brother will do this to someone else most likely. Get a lock for your bedroom door. Isn't there anyone you could live with for a short time?
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Feb 13, 2010, 02:44 PM
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Call the police and leave!! No way you should put up with this S---t!! I know how you must feel. I was abused by one of my brothers too. And in retrospect I think he was sociopath.
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Feb 13, 2010, 02:50 PM
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I'm looking, but I don't have many options...I've talked to social services but they can't really do anything because of my age.
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