Mental illness and weird sexual fetishes

I'm a 24 yr old guy and I have recently been diagnosed with adult ADHD (inattentive type), OCD, Clinical Depression and Anxiety Disorder. My psychiatrist also has me on a very low dosage of an anti-psychotic. So I guess I have some personality disorder(s) also.

My problem is that I have weird sexual fetishes (nothing illegal and nothing that could hurt another person, physically at least). I would explain further, but that might offend a lot of people here.

Other facts that might be significant :-
- straight
- virgin, have never kissed a girl. Have only had one female friend, and she once told me that she I was like a brother to her.
- loner (not by choice), socially inept, have no friends, have no siblings
- was heavily bullied (mostly verbally) from ages 12-17

Undiagnosed ADHD has practically ruined my life. I'm trying very hard to redeem myself and to get my life back on track. But one thing keeps getting in my way. I'm basically a pervert. Not the kind who would try to cop a feel in a crowded bus/train, but the kind who can't stop himself from imagining every post-puberty, pre-menopause, remotely attractive female naked. Its like I have an insatiable libido. No amount of masturbation can help me. On top of this, I have weird sexual thoughts. The kind of thoughts that I don't think most "normal" people have. Like I mentioned before, enactment of these thoughts won't land me in jail or physically hurt another person, but if I told you everything about my fetishes, you would be utterly grossed out and you would think that I'm definitely a deranged person.
And thats the problem. I am NOT a deranged person. I do not have any criminal tendencies. I don't drink, have never smoked a cigarette, have never done drugs. I haven't ever passed a red light. But if I told anyone about my fetishes, they would surely think I'm weird, creepy and crazy. Which is why I have never told anyone and am never going to. The problem is that its not easy to go on like this.
So my questions is : Can these fetishes and 'being horny all the time' be somehow connected to the mental illnesses I have been diagnosed with? Does anyone know?
And can anything be done about it?
I'm the kind of person who has to come to terms with the fact that he is going to die a vrigin. I am really really socially inept and on top of that, I'm not a very good looking person. Is there ANYTHING I can do to kill my libido? I want be an asexual person. Can anyone help me?

Hmm...reading this I can't help but think your body is crying out, for affection. You must be pretty lonely! Are there any social groups you can join? Maybe join a gym, or a social bowling league?! Something that will force you to interact with people physically, but not in a sexual way? This might help get out some of your aggression and "horny" desires.

But I also want to say, you don't seem "creepy and crazy" at all! Everyone has different sexual fantasies, fetishes, whatever you want to call them. I have had similar sexual fantasies since I was a young teen. I won't get into detail either, but most people might be surprised what kinds of things I find erotic. That doesn't make me or you or anyone else crazy or weird...the internet is an amazing tool to see just how weird people really are. So if everyone is "weird" who's normal? I think we're normal. Thoughts won't hurt anyone...just make sure you keep them in check and realize they are just thoughts.

I hope you find some peace...oh and one more thing. I doubt you will die a virgin...the internet is a wonderful thing now a'days! People in their 60s, remarried people, people with kids and baggage...all gettin together with this wonderful dating device known as the internet...you'll find someone, have faith!

With you being a 24 year old male that has never been with a female sexually or even kissed a girl - I would say that your fantasies are normal and that you do not have any thing to be ashamed of or worry about...

Do some Googling for your fetishes. I'll bet you find other folks out there into the same thing. Probably even find whole fan sites for it.

OCD can involve different and sometimes unusual sexual thoughts, as well.

I'm not a psychologist but I don't think your horny thoughts are attached to your mental disorders. You're just a sexual guy but your mental disorders hold you back from getting what you want in that regard.

I'm similar, for example for as long as long as I can remember I have been one of the horniest people. Even when I was a little boy I was constantly having dirty thoughts about virtually every semi-attractive female I came across. The key is to find someway to express your sexuality in a non sexual way. Finding a way to channel that energy and put it towards something useful is incredibly helpful. My personal sexual release valves are running, surfing, and playing guitar.

If you find a non-sexual hobby/job that you can divert most of that sexual energy into it will not only help you grow tremendously as a person, it can also be very attractive to women and help you loose your V-card.

Well, I'm certainly no doctor or anything, so I suppose these thoughts could be connected to your mental health for all I know. But my immediate thought in reading this is that, in part due to lack of social contact and the self-esteem issues which that can bring, that you are a bit more sexually awkward, repressed, and unsure than you would be otherwise. I have also heard that some deviance can be associated with repression, so that might tie in a bit.

However, the main point I'm making is that sexual fetishes are really fairly normal. Most have fantasies, although they aren't always openly discussed. And since the only information you've given me regarding these fetishes is that they aren't illegal and wouldn't hurt anybody, I'm not too concerned about them. You're a young man and having a strong libido and thinking about sex is normal - particularly if you're not getting it. If this is getting to the point where it's really disrupting your functioning or causing you to be tempted into criminal acts, then you should probably bring it up with your psychiatrist (you might anyways for reassurance). Otherwise, they sound okay to me.

Heck, if you think that's bad, you should hear some of mine.

Thanks you all for taking the time to reply

Thoughts, are just that, just thoughts. I think we'd all be surprised if we knew other people's thoughts, especially sexual ones.

I had a boyfriend when we were your age that had a lot of similar-sounding trouble; he was really into his therapist's shoes, for example; try talking to someone for therapy when you are male, the therapist is female, and you have a fetish about their shoes :-) He also liked to wrestle unclothed (and wanted to lose, kind of hard to do if you're female, beat a guy wrestling!) Those are only a couple of things I could mention and only because it was 35+ years ago and neither he nor I are the same/in contact, no one could identify him, etc.

I do know that last time I knew of him he had just bought a house and had had several good relationships since me and looked well on his way to having a good life.