 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Oct 11, 2014, 10:23 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
So I'm an asexual. But most, if not all, my friends are sexual. And I incredibly disgusted and repulsed by the idea of people having sex. My friends and I often joke about their sex lives, but then it can suddenly turn into a serious conversation and I get wicked ill. That and 2 of my friends are dating, so when we hang out they'll always run off and have sex, and sometimes it's LOUD and I want to vomit.
does anyone else have this problem? If so how do you deal with it?
__________________
Demiboy They/them/their Never compromise your identity for someone else. |
|
#2
Oct 11, 2014, 10:36 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I have, for a few years now. I stay away from people entirely.
|
|
#3
Oct 11, 2014, 12:51 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I do not have your problem and am happily sexual, but I am aware of a general approach to all problems of this type. The approach may seem paradoxical. Basically you gradually expose yourself until you become desensitized. I highly recommend this approach because you would otherwise keep running into this problem.
If you want to vomit, it is OK. You are not going to die from vomiting. If you really want to vomit (rather than using this expression as a figure of speech), go to the bathroom and vomit. You might feel relief and even something cathartic from it. |
|
#4
Oct 11, 2014, 01:04 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I am like you. You seem a little more exposed to the problem than me, tho. I have distanced myself from everyone who has ever been in my life. I find it difficult watching movies with sex in them (not porn, just regular movies). I can't watch them alone and definitely not in mixed company. I do like movies with a beautiful romantic plot line and leaves the rest to the imagination. I think there is so much sex on TV today, I don't even turn my TV on anymore.
|
|
#5
Oct 11, 2014, 01:22 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
|
 debdeb24
|
|
#6
Oct 11, 2014, 02:26 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I don't see your situation as all that unusual. I mean we all have our limits. Even people with very active sex lives don't always like talking about things in detail.
There are asexual people who aren't celibate and you're already involving yourself in this sort of discussion up to a point - so i would lay off on pressurizing yourself. You are who you are. Maybe let some of your closer friends know so that if you have to excuse yourself from the conversation after a certain point they'll understand. |
|
#7
Oct 11, 2014, 03:25 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
High quality movies do not involve smacking noises during kissing. If you have to mute scenes, most likely it means that you just should not watch the movies you are watching at all, but instead find better material to watch. |
 Angelique67
|
|
#8
Oct 11, 2014, 03:28 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
|
| hamster-bamster
|
| hamster-bamster
|
|
#9
Oct 11, 2014, 04:04 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
That's what my friends do! They're really affectionate and it's so gross! I really avoid being with them at those times.
__________________
Demiboy They/them/their Never compromise your identity for someone else. |
| Angelique67
|
|
#10
Oct 11, 2014, 04:15 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
|
|
#11
Oct 13, 2014, 10:09 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I'm in a very similar situation. All my friends in my social group are sexual, have sex partners, talk openly about sex, etc. I have gotten used to playing along, laughing in the right spots, nodding in others, but never contributing stories of my own. Mercifully, I haven't had to deal with any friends going off for 'loud sex' just yet. Though if I did, I might instead punch something instead of vomit. I simply find one excuse or another when I feel too uncomfortable, or fear awkward questions I can't answer.
|
|
#12
Oct 13, 2014, 10:12 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
When I was young I found sex a bit anxiety producing but I wasn't repulsed by it. I usually had to drink to feel comfortable around the whole issue. When I gave up drinking I basically gave up sex! :/
|
|
#13
Oct 13, 2014, 10:47 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Do any of you have abuse histories? I can't help but wonder if this is more than being asexual. This is full on repulsion which is more than simple indifference.
|
|
#14
Oct 13, 2014, 10:48 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I was sexually assaulted in college. Not sure about childhood.
|
|
#15
Nov 03, 2014, 05:07 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I think you should not think of yourself as so strange and unususal. I enjoy sex, and am defenately not asexusl. But I am growing ever more tired and disgusted with the constant fixation on sex in media. I do not consider myself a prude, but so much of society is focused on sexuality. Sexuality is only one part of who and what we are as human beings. I am single now, and find it irritating how I am surrounded by images of happy couples and sex-tips all the time. Especially because a lot of these images and storylines are there simply to sell movies, magazines etc. Sex to me is something private and intimate, with someone you trust and feel close to. When you have that kind of relationship with someone, then it is natural and nice. I think that maybe for you that time has not come yet. Dont feel like there is anything wrong with you. There is something wrong with society...
|
|
#16
Nov 04, 2014, 03:23 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Well, not completely single... more like polyamorous I guess. But I have long periods were I really dont want to have sex at all!
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
