20, still a virgin, and am really bothered about that

Lexaproman · Nov 16, 2010 at 04:25 AM

Nice comments sugahorse

The irony of all this is that we live in a world where society as a whole does not want to be accountable or have standards as if there is something wrong with having principles and understanding there are consequences either good or bad for the actions we take.

And I am in no way suggesting that I should be in charge of the standard making either.

That point aside the way sex is portrayed in entertainment whether it be on screen or in print couldn't be farther from the truth if it tried to be. Sadly many of us did not know that and most of us won't admit we got sucked in and were extremely disappointed.

Sex was designed to achieve maximum fulfillment between to committed partners regardless of what any of us say or wish to be the case.

Virginity is nothing to be concerned with, your time will arrive and if you give yourself to the person you want to spend your life with you will look back and say "now I get it!"

doriangray1718 · Jan 16, 2011 at 08:42 PM

dont worry about it, im gonna be 18 in exactly two weeks and iv never even had a bf

wifewhocares · Jan 23, 2011 at 11:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Meow_is_Truth

I know that there are many other 20-year-old virgins out there, especially among Asian girls like me. But every time I hear about others' sexual exploits, I get envious. I'm also constantly thinking about sex. I'm lesbian and I'm a bit shy around girls. (I'm not socially awkward. But you know what power a pretty girl holds. lol) Perhaps that's one of the reasons I'm still a virgin. I know for a fact though that I'm not ugly, quite the contrary, so this is not a self-esteem issue. Still, I'm really bothered about being a virgin. I'm liberal in my world view and laugh at the idea of saving myself for someone. But I don't like the idea of having sex with a random person you meet in a bar, either. Too much STDs going around these days. So, what should I do while I'm still not getting any sex? Is there anything that can make the wait less upsetting? (Please don't tell me to masturbate, though. I already do that a lot. XD)

Thanks.

You're still young, so don't feel pressured. Look for that special person, (in your case a woman) who you could love and would love you back, and when it happens, it will be a wonderful thing. Doing it just to maintain "status quo" isn't going to make you feel any better. Allow yourself the freedom of choice and eventually the right moment will come along and it will have been worth the wait!

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doriangray1718 Member Member Since Jan 2011 Location: ny Posts: 56 13	Jan 16, 2011 at 08:42 PM #22 dont worry about it, im gonna be 18 in exactly two weeks and iv never even had a bf
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