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Jan 01, 2011, 01:13 PM
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This will sound like a ridiculous question!
In my life I have had probably two significant romantic relationships. One with a boy, and one with a girl. I'm currently single and have been defining myself as gay... I'm romantically attracted to men, but I think not sexually. However there is a man I like. He's a good friend, and he's very attractive, nice, creative and all that. I would like to get with him, but there's a mental block as far as sex is concerned. He is very comfortable with his sexuality and I am not with my own. He knows that, and I think he quite likes the challenge... he likes to think he will be the one who will open this new world of pleasure to the reserved-librarian character. I worry about boring him, but that is not what I am here for. My question is, if someone else is going down on your or whatever, what the hell do you do? I mean, with my body or my mouth or whatever... I don't know how to respond apart from verbally, and I feel like that doesn't cut it? I don't know. I guess I mean, what is to be expected from the 'receiver'? Sorry for the awkward-textbook sounding wording 
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Jan 01, 2011, 01:27 PM
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Yeah, there are a few things you can do, e.g., hold their hand and maybe stroke their hand too; wrap your legs round their head; run your fingers through their hair; caress the back of their neck. Best yet, offer to reciprocate or do the "69" thing!
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Jan 03, 2011, 02:46 AM
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You could just NOT DO IT. You can be comfortable with male companions without the homosexual stuff. Some people do try to understand their emotions and actually do not go with crowd or the 'in-thing' at the time.
Take care and dont put dirty things that you have no idea where they have been in your mouth.
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Jan 03, 2011, 03:13 AM
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I can relate to you feeling a bit 'confused'/on the fence.
I think it is very important that sex is a two-way street. You need to encourage the other person that what they are doing is actually pleasurable. I find myself moaning, or talking (Not a lot, just a few moans), or my body will naturally move and 'squirm' in pleasure. I would also play with my partners hair. and maybe try pleasure him/her at the same time.
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