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Mar 05, 2011 at 07:36 PM
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My husband loves to give me oral sex. I enjoy it up to a point, but he won't stop! He actually enjoys it more than I do, I get bored and tired of it and have to pull away in order for him to stop. I end up being sore down there. He thinks I love it and he's being a great lover and I don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him the way I feel. Five minutes is okay, an hour is toooo much.
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Mar 05, 2011 at 07:57 PM
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If you explain to him that too much makes you sore then he shouldn't be too hurt. It sounds like he really wants to please you, so honesty is the best policy. Let him know that there can be too much of a good thing.
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Mar 06, 2011 at 04:49 AM
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Say,"Wow I hurt a little today" (there). "I think maybe too much of ____." Or change the words.Say "I think I just get tender after...____.But I bet we could ____instead."??
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Mar 06, 2011 at 03:11 PM
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My bf loves to do it but I don't like receiving. I just tell him no. He gives me the pouty face and sometimes I'll let him but it just doesn't do anything for me. Makes me raw and then I can't enjoy sex afterwards. I have bled before from just going too long. Luckily he is very conscientious of how I'm feeling during and stops if he notices I'm just not into it. I hope your husband listens because it just makes it not fun after a while! But also, try and take it as a compliment. He is soooo into you! But yes, I would definitely tell him your feelings on it.
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Mar 06, 2011 at 06:17 PM
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Mar 06, 2011 at 06:24 PM
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I liked it before sex but after I was way too sensitive and it was too much stimulation. No way I could endure an hour. Guys don't really understand. Have you tried saying tonight why don't we --- rather than just saying I don't like ---. Let him know what you would enjoy. Good luck.
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Mar 13, 2011 at 04:21 PM
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Yoda - AFTER?? Icky! I can't imagine a guy wanting to go down AFTER his own genitals have been there! Just like I would never give oral after sex. All I would be thinking about is "I'm basically giving myself oral right now".
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Mar 22, 2011 at 11:41 AM
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I feel for you....yet at the same time I'm a bit jealous. My husband doesn't like to give me oral, and that's basically the only way I ever orgasm.
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Mar 22, 2011 at 11:45 PM
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((Martina & PammyBlue))
Martina have you ever suggested flavoured lube? I'm not trying to make any assumptions or anything of couse, but sometimes the additional flare of the idea helps. ...if you all haven't guessed by how much I post in this forums I would love to be a sexologist! Hehe 
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Mar 23, 2011 at 09:37 AM
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I would try going on the "offensive" more so you are pleasuring him before he can pleasure you and wear out some of his energy? I would just tell him his beard makes a long time a bit rough; put the problem on the beard instead of "him"? My husband understands about the hair thing; he's clean shaven but when he decides not to shave for a day or two, asks if it's okay to kiss me
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Mar 23, 2011 at 09:50 AM
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I think you should be straight forward and explain that 'more isn't better'. There's an actual medical reason to back this up - the clitoris is a very sensitive area - a little stimulation packs more punch than too long or too rough. Once it's been stimulated sufficiently, it actually becomes uncomfortable and a turn off. Maybe for a guy, longer is better but not for a woman and you should explain this difference to him. Explain there's a medical reason for it.
In addition you both need to improve your communication. This is your body and you should be able to be comfortable enough with him to say stop, it's too sensitive and he should abide by this. If you're laying there for an hour and not enjoying it, then there's an obvious miscommunication. __________________  This is our little cutie Bella  *Practice on-line safety. *Cheaters - collecting jar of hearts. *Make your mess, your message. *"Be the change you want to see" (Gandhi) |
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Apr 14, 2012 at 12:16 AM
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But I know your pain.
My partner really enjoys going down on me but sometimes, he can get a bit.. enthusiastic and it can leave me too sore for anything else. Just tell him how it makes you feel in a way that he won't take personally. __________________ 
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Apr 22, 2012 at 01:22 AM
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I also love to give oral sex especially if the woman has a nice body and has a great orgasm. It’s a real turn on. Occasionally, I date women who don’t have an orgasm and about ten minutes is all they can take - they get bored and they just say “I want you in me” or something like that. To me, it’s no big deal and I gladly change modes. Your husband may be trying to make you have an orgasm. Maybe he thinks this is the only way you climax. He’s trying to please you.
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