My girlfriend recently blurted out that we haven't slept together in a long time. This was during an argument we had.

One question I have is whether she really wants to sleep with me or whether she's wondering why I haven't slept with her. I guess I'm wondering how important sex is to her? I know it's a personal thing, but maybe if someone can tell me how often females need to do it.

Problem is that I have no libido at the moment. I went to the doctor and he said that it can't really be fixed, although he can give me Viagra if I want. But would that really fix my libido or would it just make me functional?

I'm in the 24-36 age bracket, and so is she.

[Xacatecas]

I'm guessing tension and/or stress play a big part of your life at the moment?

Have you spoken to her about the problem, its the sort of thing that should be worked on as a couple rather than faced alone.

Just get a bit tipsy (depending on meds) and ask her to do something special in a romantic way

[SmackytheFrog]

I am so sorry if this is inappropriate but when I read the title of this forum I had to click it because the voice in my head was Dr.Who (for any that don't know, he has an English accent(I think??)) and to the flow of "I am not amused". I giggled.

But otherwise I think Viagra just makes you functional, but don't quote me on this. Its something you might want to ask your doctor or a pharmacist about.

But more importantly have you tried asking yourself why you're not aroused by your girl friend? Because being aroused is more than just getting it up, its an emotion, a desire to be close to her ect.

[lone_twin4]

I don't think there is a prescribed amount of how often we females require sex. I personally feel as if I could go without sex for the rest of my life (although once I get going I usually change my mind!) and I guess everyone has different sex drives. I don't know what effect Viagra has - maybe you could ask your doctor for more adivce? It is probably best to talk to your girlfriend about it - say that it's nothing personal, but you feel your libido is low for *whatever reason*. Many people just go through phases where they have lower libidos than they usually do, or higher libidos than they usually do. Maybe you could suggest some alternative fun which might take the pressure off a bit - having some fun without actual intercourse.

[Martina]

Well, I've been constantly rejected by my husband for nearly 9 years, and yes, it hurts. To know that you are not wanted or desired.

I'm not saying you have to give it up just because she complains about it, but being denied sex can be just as hard as having no libido.

Did your doctor test your testosterone levels? Have you tried testosterone supplements?

[punkin's past]

I think this is an issue that you need to talk with her about. I find the best way to start out a conversation is to say "Hey, Hun. I have a problem I need your help with." (Works for just about every situation, telling someone you need their help)
I am a 42 year old woman who never had a sex drive until about 36 years old. Then it was on like a light switch. My husband and I go through spells of inactivity (usually when there are stressful times) One of will talk to the other and we make sure to have a date night and relax.
One thing you should definetly do is have some blood work to rule out hormone imbalance. Try to relax and let it come easy. There is no rule of when you have to feel like it. Good luck!