Fetishes

My hubby has a fetish and I've always been good, giving and game since it was something he wanted to do ~1/month. Now tho, it's the ONLY thing he wants to do and it leaves me quite unfulfilled.

Is there any way back when the fetish takes over? I have no intention of cutting him off, BTW, I just want a bit more balance.

Has anyone been thru this and can offer suggestions?

the best way to deal with this issue, is to sit down together and tell him that you dont mind doing that for him but you have your own needs too, and that you should both make time for eachothers likes. the best way is to communicate.

perhaps you should recommend that your husband attend SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous) meetings. the reason i suggest this is because one of the problems of sexual compulsives is that they make their partners perform sexual acts that they don't really wish to participate in. the program will teach them that such pressure on a partner does not contribute to a healthy sexual / love relationship.

I like your goal of bringing back the balance in the relationship and of sticking it out. Please talk to your husband and let him know that you feel the fetish has taken over and how it is affecting your relationship. All the best to you!

Maybe you could talk to your husband about how it feels unbalanced to you? And put forth that you are willing to keep doing the fetish thing but you don't want all your sexy time to be focused around it as it does not do for you what it does for him and that's not fair.

I find the key to dealing with fetishes is communication. Quite often in my experience the person is getting to explore their fetish for the first time sometimes goes a bit overboard in the beginning when they find a willing partner.

To be cheesy, it is like a kid with a new toy (no way comparing you to an object) that they always wanted. They just want to play with it and ignore their other just as beloved toys and don't want to share. The fetish is new and exciting and fulfilling! It is hard to not want it all the time! And there is that little bit of fear that someone will take it away and you won't get to play again.

But you have every right to be fulfilled sexually too and have what you want taken into consideration into your sexy times together. Maybe some reassurance to your husband that you still are all GGG for his fetish but you need him to be just as willing in return.