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Old Mar 30, 2012, 02:08 AM
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Oh, I know. I can imagine how difficult it would be to discuss it face-to-face with anyone. T__T If you want, you can talk to me about it. I mean, I'm no guru, obviously, but...I'm another brain to bounce things off of.
The computer explanation really helped describe things. I'm sorry about the downgrading incident. I hope all goes well for you!

Talking about it? Coolz! That would be cool. Talking to you over the computer would be great! I don't know who you are! Except you like anime? And you don't know me!

I guess one thing is to start is.... uhh... hmm.... where do I start?

1) I'm not a very lustful person to begin with. He has a very high sex drive. I don't know how I get from low - to - high. I've heard that there are such things as testosterone patches that boosts libido... but how does that work? Also, does it conflict with birth control too? Eeek.

2) How do I please him when I don't want to do anything sexual. Like... nothing sexual at all.

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Old Apr 04, 2012, 01:00 AM
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How important is sex in a relationship? If you plan to marry them too? And be with them "forever" or as long as life allows?
I have lots of valuable relationships that don't involve any sex.
If I didn't have a sexual relationship I would certainly want one.

I don't suppose that quite answers your question, though!
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Old Jun 02, 2012, 04:48 AM
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Eh, this is something I think about a lot. I have a physical problem that makes sex painful and impossible for me and Ive avoided trying to start any relationships because I am humiliated by this and dont want to deal with being rejected because of it. I guess Ive just assumed all women would need sex, but seems like some could be ok without it. Makes me feel a little better I guess.
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Old Jun 02, 2012, 02:44 PM
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I wonder if we can train ourselves to do that. Within an instant. But it could be a side effect of natural reactions: Fight or Flight. Now we have freeze!
The freeze reaction is another aspect of 'fight or flight'. If you can't do either, you freeze and try to blend into the surroundings:
http://www.myshrink.com/counseling-theory.php?t_id=85
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Old Aug 09, 2012, 07:10 AM
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Guess the relationship isn't gonna last too long if one person loves sex and the other doesn't really like it.
Not necessarily true. If the two people can reach some agreeable compromise, the relationship can be forever.

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Sexuality is a normal part of being human; the sex drive varies person to person though. I think sex is important in a relationship only inasmuch as other compatibility issues are important; if one does not get along sexually, there will be stress in the relationship just as surely as if one doesn't agree on finances or emotional expression or how to raise the children, etc.

Sexuality is part of one's expression of who a person is; for example, Pandoren's asexuality would not go well with someone with a high sex interest, as has been said. But sexuality isn't something that can be willfully controlled, anymore than breathing or eating can be; boys/men ejaculate in their sleep and I've lost count of the number of sex dreams I've had :-) It's a physical part of us.
YES! Absolutely true. At least in my own situation. For me, sex is the affirmation that THIS relationship is unique from all of our other relationships. The stress comes in when either partner insists on having things their way. There has to be some compromise, just as in most aspects of any relationship.
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Old Aug 11, 2012, 10:31 AM
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Just to add what I think:
I've been in a relationship for 2 years now and I think our sexual life is killing the relationship. Sometimes I'm not in the mood (have my own problem ) the other time she doesn't like it... and we are starting to grow apart

I do think sex is important. But it depends on you and your partner.

You just made me think and I will try to fix my problem and try harder for her...
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