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Mar 17, 2012 at 04:32 PM
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Hi there im a young girl from London and i am really
anxious about meeting a boyfriend. I am a virgin and never had any experience of being with a boy as i'm scared of having sex. I worry about the touching aspect of sex and if you can tell me your experiences of sex first time and in general i would like that. Basically i feel ugly and hate myself too much. xxx Last edited by essexgirl; Mar 17, 2012 at 08:18 PM.. |
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Mar 17, 2012 at 05:22 PM
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I'm 19 and still a virgin...waiting for the right guy. |
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Mar 17, 2012 at 05:34 PM
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I waited till I was 21
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Mar 20, 2012 at 01:01 AM
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My wife was a virgin at 23.
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Mar 20, 2012 at 03:27 AM
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Hey essexgirl
 No need to rush. You're still very young and there's lots of time. Because I'm a guy I don't think it would help to tell you about my first time. I'm not sure you even wanted any responses from the male perspective  Take your time and the right guy will come along once you start getting out more. Just be cautious and make sure it's the right guy. Try not to worry about the sexual part of the relationship. Get to know and trust the guy before you even consider that. There is much more to enjoy about a good relationship than just sex. I'm sorry someone has made you feel ugly and hate yourself. Get to know yourself and form your own opinion about that. If there are things that you don't like about yourself, then you can try to change those things. Try to find some things to do that make you like yourself. Usually those things involve learning, or helping others, or something like working with homeless pets. Quote:
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Mar 20, 2012 at 07:00 PM
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Mar 20, 2012 at 08:27 PM
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I get this feeling that you may be left handed
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Mar 20, 2012 at 09:35 PM
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ah no right handed unless i am missing something here...
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Mar 20, 2012 at 10:16 PM
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No, my mistake. I was thinking left-handed compliment but I just looked up the dictionary definition and that phrase is more derogatory than I realized so my post doesn't make sense
What I meant was you may give me too much credit but it was a very nice thing to say and I thank you
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Mar 28, 2012 at 07:16 PM
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Essex girl,
Please consider waiting until you are ready. I had sex in high school and it was awful. Many of my friends got pregnant I'm lucky I didn't. Most of those women are divorced from their high school sweethearts now. Take Care. __________________  Lizzie B
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May 17, 2012 at 04:36 PM
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There's no rush Essexgirl.
You are very young, and you have plenty of time to meet the right man. I would encourage you to wait until you are ready, and find "the one." That will come in time. Until that happens, try not to sweat it. Things will happen naturally.
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May 18, 2012 at 12:35 PM
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I was 17 and waited a couple of months into a relationship before having sex. There's no rush, trust me. There's plenty of time for intimacy. Don't feel you have to offer it up on a plate just to try and snare a guy. In my opinion, the right guy will respect you so much more for wanting to wait. You'll probably find that if you get to know each other first, most of your inhibitions and fears will disappear and things will just develope naturally
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May 21, 2012 at 07:30 PM
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I would definitely take the advice of the others and wait until you are ready. I lost my virginity at a young age and it has caused me so many psychological issues. Now I'm nearly 23 and still paying for it. My circumstances were a little abnormal, but had I not tried to rush into everything just to feel accepted/ fit in, i'm sure my life would be a lot better.
My sister dated her first boyfriend for 8 months before she felt comfortable losing her virginity and he was happy to wait because he loved her. When I look at both of our lives and how they have been influence by our decisions on when to lose our virginity, hers is a lot better and she is healthier sexually, psycologically and physically...Overall, she is a stronger woman than I could ever dream to be. |
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