cant stop masturbating/touching/thinking

newtus · Apr 13, 2012 at 05:46 PM

embarrassing..but...i am female. 21. i masturbate probably once a day or so. i never have a problem getting to the end. ive had a 100% rate so to speak. but in between when im not i cant stop touching my body everywhere. even in public sometimes, its slight. i cant stop thinking about sexual scenarios. fantasies. i kinda made it come down to loneliness, period. and i am a virgin. but idk. right after im done masturbating i feel a new sensation again coming over my body. i dont think im oversexed because im a virgin and i dont have friends either. but its not like OCD because i like these thoughts, feeling, and what i do.

LiteraryLark · Apr 13, 2012 at 05:59 PM

You can't achieve the sexual satisaction you would like because your lack of a partner, masturbation can relieve some of the stress but it's not the full potential your sexual happiness can reach.

There's nothing wrong with masturbating, and there's nothing wrong with touching yourself and having fantasies in public. It is likely a strong indicator that you are bored with your nonexistant sex life.

I'm 19 and in the same boat as you are, but I am opening up to trying new things even without a partner: porn, toys, lingerie, and fetishes. It gets the job done, but I'm not nearly as satisfied without a partner, as I am also a virgin.

Helpmegetbetter · Apr 13, 2012 at 08:39 PM

As long as you don't view these urges in a negative way, then it's probably just your innate sexuality coming through, which can happen whether or not you are a virgin. It's nothing to be ashamed of, seeing how sexual thoughts and feelings can come out of the blue at just about any time, especially if triggered by certain situations you find exciting.

If you know it's your loneliness that's aggravating your already high sex drive, then what do you think would be the best way to help?

newtus · Apr 13, 2012 at 09:28 PM

I think you both are right. Partly because i do believe its my sexuality for sure. i dont see it as negative. i didnt know if it was too much so i felt slightly ashamed. but i figure maybe its also because i do not have someone. as i would like to have intimacy...which goes with that loneliness too. im not 16 or 17...but anything can trigger the thoughts AND physical feelings...words, pictures, looking at people in public. its like i still had the mind i had at that age. i am heterosexual btw. its almost summertime here, if you live in the usa. ...all these half naked guys outside...in the movies...stuff like that and so on.

with that said, yea..i dont know what to do. i guess try something new for myself? i dont know. does it seem like i have a high sex drive?

Helpmegetbetter · 09:48 PM

It's not negative. Sex drive differs from person to person, so there is no "too much" or "too little" in general.
As long as it doesn't get to be too much for you or you find yourself maybe overstimulated, I believe what you are experiencing is completely normal. You may not be that age anymore, but some things carry over as you age. Since masturbation is a pleasurable thing for you, I can understand how it would affect you and your drive.

I'm not entirely sure if you do. Haha, I think I myself have a low sex drive, but that's only because it's hard for me to become aroused.. Well.. Ever. o_o I'm not sure why. Whatever it is, it takes a long time and lots of stimulation, both physically and mentally, for me to get in the mood.

And whatever you feel is best. Take it slow and remember that if it doesn't work for you, you can always go back or try something else that you're comfortable with.

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