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Jun 21, 2012 at 11:44 PM
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A few of my friends from work have been trying to get me to go to a party with them the past couple of weeks (it's a weekly thing at one of their outside-of-work friend's house), but I keep declining. I've gone a couple times and while I have a decent time, I find myself a bit uncomfortable. The host is female, roughly my age, and, quite frankly, hot. She is the only female I've ever met in real life that I've found attractive. It's not an "oh, she's pretty" passing thought, it's an actual "wow, she's hot" type of thought. I thought I was at the point where I'm comfortable admitting to myself that I do find some women attractive, but apparently I'm not quite there yet. She's engaged and straight so I know nothing will come of it (nor do I want it to), but I've been avoiding going there because, well, I'm not sure why, other than having to face the fact that I'm attracted to her. I don't understand why I'm uncomfortable with this.
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Jun 22, 2012 at 05:57 AM
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Maybe you are uncomfortable with it because your (sexual) identity has been challenged by this? This is new territory and you are feeling a bit shaken by a change in something you might have considered "sorted" for a long time?
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Jun 22, 2012 at 06:19 AM
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Jun 22, 2012 at 09:04 AM
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I think we all eventually realize that there are certain people in our lives of the same sex that we are attracted to. If you don't admit that, you are lying to yourself or you are very, very uncommon. I truly believe that we are ALL bisexual in regards to sexual attraction, not necessarily long-term partnership.
So, your feelings are common and honest even if there are many people out there who still won't admit it. Those that don't admit this are getting more and more rare every day; especially women. Shoot, there aren't many women I know who wouldn't agree that Sofia Vergara is hot. Don't let your feelings dampen your social life. If anything, enjoy your friendship with this girl and let it fuel a wonderful, sexy fantasy secret that only you know about. It's healthy so enjoy. |
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Jun 22, 2012 at 10:37 PM
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