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Grand Magnate
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Location: Oregon, USA
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Sep 05, 2012 at 07:00 AM
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I love the whole sexual expierence..you would figure at 31 I would not have a problem with any of it but there is ONE......for the life of me I can not get comfortable enough to be on top, I avoid it....
 and it makes me really angry because in my head I sooooo want to be....outside of my head I am terrified...
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Member Since Jan 2009
Location: Saint Louis, USA
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Sep 09, 2012 at 07:33 AM
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Maybe it would help to figure out what makes you uncomfortable, exactly? When I first started having sex, I was uncomfortable being on top too. Some of my reasons were being embarrassed about my partner being able to look up at my body and feeling self-conscious about my body; worrying that I didn't really know what to do up there and that I had to set the pace; and worrying that in the beginning, it hurt a little more than being on the bottom.
It really helped me to take it slow with a new partner. I tried starting with the lights off, or keeping my body closer to his instead of sitting up on top. I asked him to help me set the pace and rhythm by using his hands to push my hips. And it just got more comfortable over the time. But like I said first, the key for me was just having a partner I could communicate with about what was going on with me. 
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Magnate
Member Since Jun 2012
Location: Virginia
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Sep 10, 2012 at 11:41 AM
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I agree. This is cartinly a light off moment. Is it due to body image that this is causing you concern. Try doing on top w/ a shirt on. Low cut, sleeveless maybe. Or a reg shirt. My H swears looks do not matter. It is the thought of the woman on top and the "action" that is the turn on. Of course if your good looking I'm sure it helps.
Is the concern due to fear of agressiveness on your part. It is easy to say just let that all go thats hard to do. Do you fear judgement. I don't think any amount of agressiveness of pleasure will be looked upon negatively by any man. For me personally w/ me on top I could take it or leave it. There are positions that I like more but in the mindset of what is for someone elses enjoyment if that is what my H wants from time to time then your wish is my command. |
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