Why can't I stop these cyber-sexual encounters?

I think I've always had some sort of odd obsession with sex. I remember starting to daydream and fantasize about it when I was maybe 7 or 8 years old. I was exposed to pornography around that time also. Then, by the time I was 12 or 13, and had my own computer, I started chatting with older guys online, telling them I was a lot older than I am (17, 18, 19+). Sometimes we just friendly chat, but normally these guys I talk to, I sex-chat with them. If I send pictures, they're never of myself. I send pictures of girls I find online. I tell them fake names. Most of it is fake. The longest "relationship" I kept going was over a year. Most of them last a few months. Even when I don't want to do it, I can't seem to help myself. I'll do it whether I get actual pleasure out of it or not. I'll swear to myself that I'll never do it again, delete all my fake pictures from my computer, and delete my IM or whatever account, only to make a new one in a matter of weeks or two months tops. I know it is wrong, and I'm not even sure if it's legal - the fact that I use other women's pictures (normally off of facebook). But I can't stop! I'm a virgin, but none of the characters I've created that chat with these men (and sometimes women) are at all. I hate myself for this, and feel very pathetic and dirty.

This is something you need to speak with a counselor about. You may have severe social anxiety and sexual phobias that you hide in your characters. I agree, it is not healthy but nothing to be ashamed of.

I agree with Doc... this isn't illegal as far as I know but it's obviously causing you much shame and distress and it can't be healthy.
I don't think you're pathetic or dirty but you are continuing a pattern of behavior that you can't stop and that causes you a great deal of stress and shame. Like Doc said, I think you need to talk to a therapist about this.
I wish you well.

As far as being illegal, it would be illegal for the opposite party to be cybersexing with minors.

Hey there.

I don't think you're pathetic or filthy, not at all. I think you might've just found an outlet for your sexual desires perhaps a little too soon, and are having trouble breaking away from it. It's not really unlike someone with an addiction to pornography.

You won't be in legal trouble, but I would not use anyone from Facebook, largely for how...lol I suppose personal...that is. It is illegal for them to engage with you if you are underage, but I don't think you're in any legal trouble.

Have you ever spoken to someone about this, like a counselor or therapist? I think they can help you understand why you do this, and how to ween yourself off it.

Stay strong Wendy. You're in my prayers, and I wish you my best.

Harley