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Oct 04, 2012 at 02:47 PM
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Hi My Girlfriend and I are having some issues regarding me getting erectil dysfunction on occasion. Most of the time we have sex without any issues but then sometimes I just lose my erection. I always get turned on by her even the little things she does turns me on so much and I can feel myself getting hard through kissing or things she says and always get a hard on when we start touching each other but then on occasion when something like changing positions I can lose my erection. In addition to that, I was with a prostitute before I met her and she wants to know how I was hard for her and sometimes Im not hard for my girlfriend, I dont have an answer for her only that this doesnt always happen. She thinks Im not attracted to her but in truth Im extremely attracted to her and think she is so beautiful. She always turns me on. Any advice is most welcome Thanks
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Oct 04, 2012 at 05:07 PM
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I guess the obvious thing to say is to consider seeing your doctor. If you are a young man and you are having troubles maintaining an erection, there might either be a (hopefully minor) problem or remedies can be suggested to you to help you maintain it.
My second thought is that maybe the more times you've had problems, perhaps the more it preys on your mind, even subconsciously, and that's why you've been continuing to have issues, even though you find your girlfriend sexually attractive. If you keep losing your erections at the same point (like, as you say, changing positions) do you find you are thinking "oh dear, I could lose my erection here" or "this is the point when it usually happens..." because that could be causing you to become perhaps a bit stressed and end up fulfilling the same pattern again. Even if you don't consciously think that 'this is the point' your body may subconsciously recognise it and tense or release hormones/chemicals that cause you to lose that erection. |
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Oct 20, 2012 at 08:25 PM
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I agree with the above post anxiety is a huge issue, If you can stay positive and practice releasing the thoughts of anxiety from your mind. Easier said than done but practice helps.
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Oct 20, 2012 at 10:20 PM
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I'd like to add a thought here.
I had some similar experience with a girl i dated who was sexy and we shared an insane chemistry that we could feel in the air between us like magnectic fields. we would spend a lot of time kissing and teasing and playing with each other. and when it came time to get down to business, sometimes I would be completely soft. the problem was, no one can stay hard forever. and time flies when you're having fun. looking back on it we'd been spending 3-4 hours messing around. after we figured that out, we handled the time better. and it was good. anyway, maybe that applies to you, and maybe not. but it's something to consider. __________________ Jax 
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Oct 22, 2012 at 11:29 PM
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Make sure you tell her again and again that you find her beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, attractive - add on the positive attributes she would like to be described with.
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Dec 07, 2012 at 08:46 AM
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i dont have a good answer but I'm having the same issue! she likes it slow and sensual and i need it fast and hard to keep my erection and get off! dont get me wrong..i like slow and sensual but i just dont feel it much that way!
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