I cannot tell when the guy comes

doggiedo · Feb 08, 2013 at 11:28 PM

This is a great thread and with some humor- love it! I think u could probably say somethig like - hey babe, i wish I could sense what you're feeling...it would help me gauge things better. Any chance u can give me a sign - I'd love to know what you like when you like t.

Something like that. I had a bf that I just came out and old him I needed him to be more vocal so I knew what he liked when I was doing it. He laughed and totally agreed and said he'd try.

Good luck!

Feb 09, 2013 at 08:08 AM

I like to make extra noises beyond what I actually feel in order to provide positive feedback for my partner. Usually I come outside of her though and she is able to tell when I orgasm because I ejaculate.

hamster-bamster · Feb 09, 2013 at 02:03 PM

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I like to make extra noises beyond what I actually feel in order to provide positive feedback for my partner. Usually I come outside of her though and she is able to tell when I orgasm because I ejaculate.

Yes, ejaculation is almost always a telltale sign of orgasm... except for my bipolar II friend Joe who unfortunately has unhedonic ejaculations when he has sex with his wife. I am not positive as to what the culprit is, but I think it is his Effexor. Sad, very sad.

CantExplain · Feb 09, 2013 at 08:06 PM

I don't suppose I ever made much noise. But my wife always knew.

Feb 19, 2013 at 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Yes, ejaculation is almost always a telltale sign of orgasm... except for my bipolar II friend Joe who unfortunately has unhedonic ejaculations when he has sex with his wife. I am not positive as to what the culprit is, but I think it is his Effexor. Sad, very sad.

Wow, I just did a Google search for anhedonic ejaculation which led me to sexual anhedonia. This is off topic but it's amazing that women can have an orgasm without pleasure. I considered ejaculation and orgasm the synonym of sexual pleasure. Curiouser and curiouser.

hamster-bamster · Feb 20, 2013 at 01:46 PM

Exactly - curiouser and curiouser/

JLarissaDragon · Feb 22, 2013 at 02:35 PM

I usually know when my husband comes inside me. His rhythm changes. Sometimes I can actually feel him throb I think. It gives me great pleasure to know that I have satisfied him, I like him to stay connected as long as possible. I realize though that all of us are different

hamster-bamster · Feb 24, 2013 at 03:06 PM

Initially I asked on this board about a guy who would not come at all. Erections but not ejaculations. This one at least does come. Just quietly, but he does.

So I think that I have been making progress in the right direction in recent months.

LostSavant · Feb 28, 2013 at 04:52 PM

All men are different, just like all women are different. I have an insatiable sexual appetite but can only express it when I am with someone I love. I have been married 3 (going on 4) times. I am a huggy person, but I also enjoy touch human or animal, maybe because I am a child of nature (pagan). My mate is very accommodating to my insatiable appetite. And as far as my experiences with the men I have been with the spouses and 3 others. Two were roarers, 3 were moderate, 1 was very quiet and the last I don't care to recall at all. It all depends on how they were raised and the environment in which the grow up in.

hamster-bamster · Feb 28, 2013 at 05:00 PM

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It all depends on how they were raised and the environment in which the grow up in.

Really? I cannot see the difference between the roarer and the quiet one in my own small sample. Same demographic makeup, more or less.

JLarissaDragon · Feb 28, 2013 at 06:23 PM

Probably it is more about personality than where some one was raised. Some make a scene and others come more quietly. I find pleasure in intercourse itself, without worrying when my man comes as long as it is not premature ejaculation, which I think is maybe the bigger issue

Big Mama · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:27 PM

I think us ladies are the same way. Some of us are screamers, others of us are not. Some of us reserved others not so much. As long as you get what you need and he gets what he needs there is no reason to worry about why one is noisy or not so much.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Big Mama

I think us ladies are the same way. Some of us are screamers, others of us are not.

It also changes within the same lady - I have become much louder over the years.

Big Mama · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:37 PM

cool, so there is hope yet. I am reserved. silent. But H gets it right. Somehow he figures it out. So praise the lord. I'm reserved and quiet in most all I do.

I remember when I was having child number 3 and I asked for drugs the Dr. said why your not even screaming yet. ( Asswhole, squeeze a watermelon out of there and you might scream or it might hurt to freken bad to scream.)

So in other words some of us are screamers others of us are not. I'm not. We also have 3 kids and to much noise will alert the tribe. Your 30 sec of fun is over because one just can't be quiet. The surroundings and circumstances make alot of difference to.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:41 PM

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We also have 3 kids and to much noise will alert the tribe. Your 30 sec of fun is over because one just can't be quiet. The surroundings and circumstances make alot of difference to.

That too. I just have three cats. When I had little children, I kept my mouth tightly shut, to avoid screaming.

Big Mama · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:43 PM

kitties are lots less bothered. got to watch out for those kids though

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:47 PM

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kitties are lots less bothered. got to watch out for those kids though

Kitties differ in their reactions. Tommy, my largest cat who is all black, comes to watch. The lady kitties do not care. And Tommy is only interested in watching partner sex. He cannot care less for masturbation. He needs real action.

Big Mama · Mar 01, 2013 at 08:55 PM

Boys they are all the same.

hamster-bamster · Mar 01, 2013 at 09:01 PM

Yeah...

All fixed, as you can guess.

But still

.

hamster-bamster · Mar 11, 2013 at 11:26 PM

I think I caught a breathing pattern.

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Anonymous33211 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 09, 2013 at 08:08 AM #22 I like to make extra noises beyond what I actually feel in order to provide positive feedback for my partner. Usually I come outside of her though and she is able to tell when I orgasm because I ejaculate.
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CantExplain Big Poppa Member Since Oct 2011 Location: New Zealand Posts: 19,616 (SuperPoster!) 12 19.7k hugs given	Feb 09, 2013 at 08:06 PM #24 I don't suppose I ever made much noise. But my wife always knew. __________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby!
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 3,729 hugs given	Feb 20, 2013 at 01:46 PM #26 Exactly - curiouser and curiouser/
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JLarissaDragon Grand Member Member Since Oct 2011 Location: Oregon Posts: 898 12 1,087 hugs given	Feb 22, 2013 at 02:35 PM #27 I usually know when my husband comes inside me. His rhythm changes. Sometimes I can actually feel him throb I think. It gives me great pleasure to know that I have satisfied him, I like him to stay connected as long as possible. I realize though that all of us are different
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 3,729 hugs given	Feb 24, 2013 at 03:06 PM #28 Initially I asked on this board about a guy who would not come at all. Erections but not ejaculations. This one at least does come. Just quietly, but he does. So I think that I have been making progress in the right direction in recent months.
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JLarissaDragon Grand Member Member Since Oct 2011 Location: Oregon Posts: 898 12 1,087 hugs given	Feb 28, 2013 at 06:23 PM #31 Probably it is more about personality than where some one was raised. Some make a scene and others come more quietly. I find pleasure in intercourse itself, without worrying when my man comes as long as it is not premature ejaculation, which I think is maybe the bigger issue
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Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 11 646 hugs given	Mar 01, 2013 at 08:27 PM #32 I think us ladies are the same way. Some of us are screamers, others of us are not. Some of us reserved others not so much. As long as you get what you need and he gets what he needs there is no reason to worry about why one is noisy or not so much.
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Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 11 646 hugs given	Mar 01, 2013 at 08:43 PM #36 kitties are lots less bothered. got to watch out for those kids though
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Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 11 646 hugs given	Mar 01, 2013 at 08:55 PM #38 Boys they are all the same.
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 3,729 hugs given	Mar 01, 2013 at 09:01 PM #39 Yeah... All fixed, as you can guess. But still .
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 3,729 hugs given	Mar 11, 2013 at 11:26 PM #40 I think I caught a breathing pattern.
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