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Default Nov 22, 2012 at 02:01 AM
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I wouldn't say attention seeking as much as open and inquisitive. Madonna does this stuff for a living; at least hammie has a legitimate occupation.
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Smile Nov 22, 2012 at 07:09 PM
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Interesting post... Not sure how interracial and gay sex/relationships is considered unconventional - to me they are not. Also, the original question asked about dating sites:
Match.com
Christiansingles
Plenty of fish
Pinksofa(lesbian)
Meetup.com(not a dating sit but has singles groups)
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Default Jun 13, 2013 at 02:16 AM
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2. So you think that having multiple partners is somehow more conventional--as in having more morals--than a virgin trying to please herself while waiting for the right guy?
I am not sure what you meant by having more morals; I do not know how you are being moral or immoral waiting for the right guy - waiting for the right guy is something you are doing for your own benefit - I swim for the same reason, because it benefits me. It is value-neutral.

Your waiting for the right guy does not make the world a better place, or a worse place.

What you do on this forum, repeatedly, does create value and does make the world a better place - say, people come to this forum feeling ashamed and torn by their fetishes, and you welcome them, reassure them, direct them to the appropriate resources (fetlife, right?), tell them that not only are they not alone, but they are far more "mainstream" (as compared to folks on fetlife, right?) than they themselves think.

Then they walk away feeling relieved that they are OK and not bad people, plus, feeling empowered to explore their fetishes for their own benefit and, possibly, for the benefit of their partners. So, you have already helped a lot of people.

I am not saying that this is all you do, this is just one example showing how you create value/make the world a better place, consistently, time and again.

This is something you do that benefits others. Or, if you eventually adopt a child - that will make the world better place and give a chance at a good life to somebody who might otherwise never get that chance. All of that is commendable.

That you wait for the right guy benefits you, since you believe that your experience will be better if the guy is right; possibly, your waiting for the right guy will benefit that right guy (hypothetically and not necessarily the case). I cannot see how it would be more moral or less moral - you are not making the world a better place or a worse place by waiting for the right guy. It is neutral.
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Default Jun 13, 2013 at 02:40 AM
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I can see how one can say that you are as important a part of the world as anybody else, so the value/benefit you create for yourself is your contribution to the common good, but it sort of gets circular; so, while acknowledging that self-love, self-respect, self-esteem, self-pleasuring, self-development are all GREAT things, I will take the standard approach that holds that people are (primarily) judged by the value they create for others, not themselves.
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Default Jun 13, 2013 at 01:47 PM
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I once saw a vampire dating site. Not sure what that was about.
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I once saw a vampire dating site. Not sure what that was about.
Thank you, ArmyGirl, it is Vampire Social Network Community Dating Website Vampires Gothic Goths Humans vampire websites vampire dating goth dating vampire sites vampire website vampire site gothic vampires vampires vampire social network goth social network vampire websites v, and I wish I could send it to my ex 2 H who has almost literally sucked all the life force out of me. But my only contact to him is through my attorney, so to the extent that I would need to pay money to send him the link to the vampire dating site, I would refrain from taking that action - just purely to save on legal fees.
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PS The link above is keyword-stuffed through no fault of mine.
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