I really don't like the way I look "down there."

Stranger516 · Dec 01, 2012, 03:17 PM

I am 23 years old and I really don't like the way I look "down there."

My left inner lip is a little bigger than the right one, and the skin on one side of my clitoris is very loose almost as if my left inner lip goes up next to the left side of my clitoris.

It seems like over time the skin down there has has gotten a lot more "stretched out" and "loose." It used to be all nice and neatly tucked in and symmetrical.

Now however I hate how it looks and I feel so self-conscious about it. It makes me self conscious about doing sexual things with my boyfriend and I feel so depressed about it.

I don't know what to do.

LiteraryLark · Dec 01, 2012, 05:26 PM

The only thing to do is to get over it because there is nothing you can do about it. Bodies change over time and it's not that unusual that your lady parts change as well.

Pandoren · Dec 01, 2012, 06:33 PM

I have heard that, like with many things, women's parts down there generally aren't symmetrical in the first place and also it seems things changing and heading south is a part of the whole life process (aging and physical activity in that area, I guess). I very much doubt you are alone in that at least. All I can say to assure you is that it isn't an uncommon thing and your boyfriend probably doesn't care about what it looks like. It might be that this is something you have to try to put out of your mind, or if you think he's the type to respond positively, tell your boyfriend about it and let him reassure you.

Maven · Dec 02, 2012, 05:27 AM

Honestly, it's nothing to worry about. There are all kinds of ladyparts. And, like DrSkipper said, bodies change over time. I miss having a young vagina myself (I'm 44). Oh, to be in my early 20's again!

However, there is an option, if you really want it or feel you need it (for some women, their inner lips are too long, and get pulled uncomfortably, even painfully), there is plastic surgery, specifically a vaginoplasty. (Look it up, if interested.) I don't recommend it--I don't want any sharp objects down there that don't need to be

--but it's an option.

Stellato · Dec 02, 2012, 08:23 AM

Like everyone else said, don't worry about! Everyone is different. Yours is uniquely Stranger516's vagina.

Shoot, my right testicle hangs about half an inch lower than my left one and my girlfriend didn't even bother to care until I brought it up to her and she said "Oh yeah, it does. Welp, AS LONG AS THEY FUNCTION! I don't give a s***!"

Big Mama · Dec 02, 2012, 01:50 PM

Has your bf or a guy ever complained about that being an issue for them? I don't think that is a real concern for them. Guys are w/ you for you not for your privite parts (they better be not be anyway) I have not heard to many complaints from men about the looks of a womans anatomy. Ezch man surely has his own prefrence but will not balk at things that may not be of his exact prefrence. It's like a tri colored popcicle, So what if there is a little more of one color on one side it's still good.

Harley47 · Dec 02, 2012, 01:52 PM

Stranger, you're just fine, I promise.

lol EVERYONE has something on their body they wish they could "fix," I would wager. Often, the thing we want to "fix" isn't even remotely close to broken though.

You've nothing to worry about. I can nearly guarantee you, your boyfriend probably doesn't care in the slightest that your labia are slightly asymmetrical.

If anything, he's probably more upset that you're upset about it.

bighands · Dec 03, 2012, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Stranger516

I am 23 years old and I really don't like the way I look "down there."

My left inner lip is a little bigger than the right one, and the skin on one side of my clitoris is very loose almost as if my left inner lip goes up next to the left side of my clitoris.

It seems like over time the skin down there has has gotten a lot more "stretched out" and "loose." It used to be all nice and neatly tucked in and symmetrical.

Now however I hate how it looks and I feel so self-conscious about it. It makes me self conscious about doing sexual things with my boyfriend and I feel so depressed about it.

I don't know what to do.

I'm 48 and have talked to guys and women about this subject for years! Big Mama is right on. The only part of the way your vagina looks that your BF doesn't like is that your stressing over it may limit how much he is allowed to have access to it! It's all yours honey. Be proud of it. Men lose their money, their dignity and sometimes their lives over getting to a woman's vagina. The way it looks is NOT gonna effect how any man worth a damn will love you.

I've always lived by the saying that vaginas are like pizza. There may be some that are better than others but there really is NO such thing as a bad one.