Fetish/ fantasy

What's your sexual fetish or fantasy ? Has anyone explored a fantasy into real life ? Was it as good as the fantasy ? Would you reccomend going for it, making a fantasy real or is it best left as fantasy ?
My bf and I have often shared our fantasy of having a 3some, but I know we'd never pursue it. I wouldn't anyway and can't help wondering if he would. What red blooded male would want 2 women in bed with him. I imagine most men if asked would find this a turn on.
I for one, don't want to see my man having sex with another woman, although I think the turn on for him would be seeing me, with a woman.

As for fetishes, well we are quite tame I suppose in the bedroom. I have to have my heels/boots on. Having sex with my underwear on, and heels is a turn on. I hate to be completely naked, prefer to keep my sexy lingerie on.
I'm not into spanking or dominance, BDSM, or a-al doesn't do it for me. I've tried a-al but it doesn't appeal to me, much to my bf's regret. What is the attraction ? Is the 'naughtiness' of it ? I think it's quite unatural, just my p.o.v.

We both enjoy porn, is that a fetish ? We love watching films together, getting excited, knowing soon we'll be having sex. Great visual foreplay. He enjoys the girl on girl action and I find it all erotic.

What about golden showers, does anyone find them erotic ? Do you engage in this activity ? For me the whole total abandonment, letting go, would be a turn on. It for me wouldn't be to humiliate my partner, but to totally abandom myself to him. I must say anything other than pee play is a total no go. (sc-t play) that's gross.

I also must admit I recently read about adult nursing relationships. That sounds erotic, I love my man sucking my t-ts, and feeding him is a fantasy. Not that I would actively pursue that, purely for practical reasons, but some women force lactation primarily for their men. What do you think ?

I think fetishes and fantasies are healthy, and stop sex becoming boring. Variety is the spice of life.

I think the time to worry is when you can't have sex without your fetish or fantasy.

I wonder how many others share my fantasies.

What fetish or fantasies do you have ?

Have you ever made a fantasy become real, did you regret it ?

I am interested in your thoughts

I'm into Nazis and strap-ons, dressing like a Nazi and pegging another man. I own two uniforms--one repro tunic and trousers and a sexy lingerie one that I made myself. I've worn my uni in front of my best friend and a guy friend that we like to watch Nazi movies together. Sometimes I wear it alone, just to feel more powerful and less lonely. There is SO much power to the uniform, but also a lot of misunderstanding.

I've never gone as far as pegging, but the thought is incredibly hot. Taking him to his knees then making him moan for me as I fck him hard is very hot.

Thank you Dr. Skipper, I was beginning to think my post was too risque, as people are viewing it, but no replies.

I am confused, are you a male or female ? Some of you posts mention female 'bits' others sound masculine.

Forgive the ignorance isn't a transexual a male dressed as a female ?

What is pegging ?
What is pansexual ?

Your role play sounds fun, I love dressing for sex, much more than being totally naked.

Looking forward to resuming a sex life and indeed a life when this dep. Passes

(I am a guy btw) I am into female dominance; mostly women using strap ons on men and the girl playing the guy role. Wearing women's lingerie, gas mask\oxygen masks, **** play on myself, gloves, and condoms.

Pegging is when a woman wears a strap on dildo and penetrates a man with it.
Pansexual is a love and attraction towards all gender identities (male, female, TS). Basically there is no such thing as gender. Everyone in these eyes are the same.

My ultimate fantasy has actually been played out already, with my girlfriend. To be penetrated and f***ed with a strap on dildo while I'm cross dressed. It turns me on to be on the bottom, sexually. That's why I like that my GF is dominant so much. My GF is actually my Mistress and we're in a D/S relatioship.

Thank you for your reply.
So, if the girl is playing the guy's role, and wears a strap on, does that mean you want sex with a male ?
How is that satisfying for the girl ? Or is this just part of guy / girl v-rginal sex ?
So is pansexual the same as bisexual ?
I clearly have a lot to learn.
I wouldn't class myself as anything but straight but lesbian porn is erotic and exciting.

I am not homophobic or intolerant of sexual preferances but gay porn does nothing for me, total turn off even imagining 2 men together. Just my personal preference, yet I find lesbian action erotic.

Thanks for you views

I've actually had sex with a guy before and enjoyed it no where near as much as I do with my GF. I like the penetration part, but I still need a woman there with me. A guy doesn't do it. The normal male aspects turn me off (deeper voice, rougher skin, etc) which is why after that, I am most definitely not gay or bi. It's not the want to have sex with a male, it's the want to have sex with a powerful, dominant female and to be dominated. Sorta like the female want to be with a guy who shows strength and protection and power. (This is just my opinion btw. I'm sure there are guys out there where the girl playing the guy role for them actually means they enjoy having sex with a male. There in being they're Bi. But for myself, that is not my preference. Through experience I might add.)

As for the girl perspective of it, I'm not exactly sure as I am not the girl but she tells me (and what I hear from others) is that the turn on is dominating a male and feeling the power from it.

And pansexual isn't the same as bisexual because you only see and are attracted to male and female as bisexual. Pansexual sees more than that.

And to answer some of your other questions, porn watching could be considered a fetish. It is a form of voyeurism. Watching other people.

Me personally, I'm not into urination. I don't even like my own pee lol. I see where you're coming from, though, and the whole total abandonment and how that could turn someone on.

About the adult nursing relationship, I could actually see myself doing that! I've never seen that before actually. I was sort of deprived of that as a child (or any physical affection or love from my parents or provided necessity) and there's a void there because of it that that fetish could satisfy.

Some of the time, that's where fetishes come from. A scenario or trauma or situation as a younger person that you're use to or had a taste but deprived of or just plain experienced as a child or adolescent.

This is a forum specifically for frank and open discussion of sexuality and sexual issues. It takes a lot of courage to talk about my fetish. About six months ago the world watched me order and try on my unis, and I even posted pix of myself in the costume. Some of my threads received a lot of negative feedback because of the content. But I made some friends here who understand where I'm coming from.

Yes, I am a girl. Haha, why do I seem masculine? Maybe it's the Nazis or the an*l toy thread, haha.

I am still confused on my sexuality. I am no longer interested in dating or having sex with women, but I can still find them attractive. But to me, pansexual means that I love men and women of every gender and orientation spectrum as well as being open to any religious/political beliefs.

I honestly don't follow trans-gender trans-sexual trans-vestite. I only follow Frank-N-Furter, who is a Sweet Transvestite from Transexual Transylvania

I'm really sleepy, so I'm going to keep this short for now, but maybe I'll add more next time. I think fetishes and fantasies are fine as long as they're between consenting partners (adults, preferably, but teens have sex, too, so I'm going to leave that open). I sometimes wonder if these kinds of desires come from the way religion has controlled sexuality and what would be natural changed into something "naughty."

I've never done it, but I'd like to try roleplaying. Maybe I'll tell you more about that next time, LOL!

I suppose that to each their own. What two consenting adults do in a loving relationship (preferably married) is their own business. If you want to watch graphic videos, play out fantasies or whatever, go for it as long as both agree and no one is hurt. Personally I would much rather be doing it myself rather than watching someone else in a video. Sex is God's creation and gift to be enjoyed. I do not see where my religious beliefs inhibit that in the slightest

Watching films is just vistal stimulation, watching various scenarios play out giving us ideas and suggestions. I've rarely wanted to act out scenes seen in a porn film but can find them exciting to watch. Harmless voyeurism. Maybe fetishes are born from being deprived, I'm not sure but the adult feeding for me, is a strange fantasy. If you look it up, it's has a huge following. I'm not sure how it started for me, is it the need to nurture ? But irl, the thought of actually lactating doesn't appeal. Just the fantasy, although many women go on to make it real. I do remember all through both my pregnancies and while breast feeding, I felt super sexy all the time.

As long as it all between consenting adults in private, then what's the harm ?

That is mainly what it stems from, psychologically; the need/want to nurture. And then for the one being fed, to be nurtured.

My main fetishes/kinks involve ageplay, AB/DL - diapers, panties, schoolgirl uniforms, etc. It is non-sexual for the most part. I've never taken part in revealing such information to potential partners + am slowly embracing my quirks, without worrying & stressing myself out too much.

I'm really into bondage. I find the thought of being tied up, unable to move and completely at the mercy of another person to be a huge turn-on. And plus, I think the whole bondage thing has to ride on a lot of trust. You are letting someone take control over you and you trust them enough not to betray you, or anything.

Being a masochist also makes the bondage thing a whole lot better for me. I especially love being burnt. It makes me feel like I'm being claimed, like I'm now someone's property to be used and abused (at my consent, of course!). I was in a relationship with this guy once, and he enjoyed burning his name into my back. I don't anything has ever turned me on so much before.

I don't think I could ever really enjoy golden showers, though. I mean, whatever floats your boat is totally cool, but I think fetishes and fantasies should only ever be between two (or sometimes more??) consenting people. All parties should be aware of what they're doing and also be completely comfortable with it.

OMG Burning, a fetish ? I know some people are into pain, but burning, sounds very painful, how did you endure that ? Are you now scared, as in scar-ed with an ex's name for life ?

(never noticed before scar-ed and scared as in afraid, are spelt the same ? Or is it scarred ?)

I have had very brief, fleeting fantasies of a menage a trois, both with two men who are friends having sex with me at the same time and of me and my gf pleasuring a guy together (but never each other - I am completely straight).

That is it - golden showers are completely weird to me as well as strap-ons and what not. Completely weird and totally off-putting. At least that is how I have lived the first half of my life - we will see what the second half has in store for me.

Well, I guess it's sort of like a natural high for me. When the human body feels pain it releases endorphins, which are like this natural narcotic that keeps the brain from being overwhelmed by the signals that the nerve endings are sending. So, when someone hurts me in a sexual way, I get the sting of pain mixed with this rush of pleasure.

When I first got into the whole masochist thing, it was pretty hard to endure a lot of pain. My eyes would water a lot >o< but over the last few years I've been able to take more and more of it without looking like I'm crying.

There are some faint scars on my back, but unless someone studied it for a while they wouldn't be able to see a name. Also, I think it's spelt 'scarred'.

I've never heard of burning as a fetish, either, but I can believe it, since some people are into pain and hot wax.

I can't remember if I've mentioned it, but while I'm not heavily into BDSM, I like the idea of being under someone else's control (at least in fantasy--in fantasy, you're safe, because you're controlling the fantasy), maybe some light bondage and light spanking (nothing too painful). But! I also like the idea of reversing the roles, and me being the one in control. Sex should be fun, experimental, and exciting. As long as all parties consent and are adults, and they aren't infringing on someone else's rights or harming anyone, whatever floats your boat! Teenagers often have sex, I know, but I'm just speaking for adults here...if you're underage, it's a bit more complicated, especially if your partner is an adult--then it's a crime!