Sex is great...?

lady1158 · Mar 08, 2013 at 12:37 PM

It usually becomes less painful after a while.

Mar 09, 2013 at 11:29 PM

I believe you can go to Planned Parenthood if you don't want to involve your parents. Which brings up a whole other issue... what are you using for birth control if you've never been to an OB/GYN?? Why aren't you on the pill? You can go to Planned Parenthood and get the pill on your own and I don't think you have to pay for it. Not in Michigan, where I live, anyway. (Or, if you do, it's extremely cheap.) Sorry to lecture--really, I know I'm being a pain in the *****--but I've been in the medical field too long and seen too many unplanned pregnancies from condoms breaking. The pill is far better. Okay, end lecture. Anyway, if you go that route you could probably ask their OB/GYN about what's going on. They aren't really there for that purpose so you may get a cursory response but at least you'll get something.

lady1158 · Mar 11, 2013 at 01:48 AM

I already go to Planned Parenthood, and yes I'm already on the pill. Thanks for your concern though! I actually did make an appointment with them to look around down there, but they didn't find anything out of the ordinary and told me if I wanted a more thorough exam I would have to schedule it with an actual gynecologist because they couldn't help me for some reason.

sewerrats · Mar 11, 2013 at 04:10 AM

mabye this guy is to big for you.

lady1158 · Mar 11, 2013 at 12:00 PM

That might be true. I have had one previous sexual partner who wasn't as big as my current one and it still hurt to have sex, but not as much as it does now..

Harley47 · Mar 11, 2013 at 12:06 PM

It could be just your...erm, physical size, if you take my meaning, without necessarily being vaginismus or something like that.

I know someone who suffers from that. In that case, it would be a matter of time and practice, I would think...but you shouldn't have to suffer through it until things sort of resolve themselves, and that's assuming they would.

Any progress with perhaps seeing an OBGYN?

sewerrats · Mar 11, 2013 at 12:46 PM

My wife has a slight prolaspe that makes some position,s in sex painful, an internal at the gp would tell that.

hamster-bamster · Mar 11, 2013 at 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by lady1158

I already go to Planned Parenthood, and yes I'm already on the pill. Thanks for your concern though! I actually did make an appointment with them to look around down there, but they didn't find anything out of the ordinary and told me if I wanted a more thorough exam I would have to schedule it with an actual gynecologist because they couldn't help me for some reason.

This is very weird. PP has nurse practitioners and nurse midwives and other professionals who are just as qualified as OB-GYN's. Very weird.

lady1158 · Mar 11, 2013 at 11:58 PM

It could be physical size. Maybe over time it will get better? A funny thing, my doctor said that giving birth might actually fix my problem, but she said she wouldn't recommend it! Haha
Planed parenthood has that? My doctor or whoever she was told me she could look around down there but couldn't do much else for me. Maybe it's only for the PP that I go to. Other ones might have more qualified people.

sewerrats · Mar 12, 2013 at 04:30 AM

IT wont feel good till the fear of pain is lifted , if your guy is doing it right you will lubricate yourself in forplay, if not dont do it.Your body will react to stimulation from you boyfriend if he is not selfish. Another tip my wife use,s a vibrator before we make lolve and orgasm,s from that ,not penatration just on the clitrus which make entry after easy has she is well lubricated. if i was to just plough in no forplay she carnt be penetrated dry .Also if scared your vagina will not open.

lady1158 · Mar 12, 2013 at 09:52 AM

Don't worry I'm plenty lubricated by the time we actually do anything. My boyfriend usually goes down on me and has me orgasm before we have sex. I think you have a point, though, which my doctor always made. If I keep expecting pain I'm going to keep experiencing it and it just becomes a vicious cycle. But I don't know how to get around that.

bighands · Mar 12, 2013 at 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by lady1158

It could be physical size. Maybe over time it will get better? A funny thing, my doctor said that giving birth might actually fix my problem, but she said she wouldn't recommend it! Haha
Planed parenthood has that? My doctor or whoever she was told me she could look around down there but couldn't do much else for me. Maybe it's only for the PP that I go to. Other ones might have more qualified people.

Hi lady. I have to ask. How old are you?

sewerrats · Mar 12, 2013 at 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by lady1158

Don't worry I'm plenty lubricated by the time we actually do anything. My boyfriend usually goes down on me and has me orgasm before we have sex. I think you have a point, though, which my doctor always made. If I keep expecting pain I'm going to keep experiencing it and it just becomes a vicious cycle. But I don't know how to get around that.

Mabye try when you are slightly drunk, not your boyfriend or he will be out of order so to speak. The alcohol may relax your body to recieve him pain free , then the spell may be broken, worth a shot.

hamster-bamster · Mar 12, 2013 at 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by bighands

Hi lady. I have to ask. How old are you?

Earlier on the thread, lady said: "I live in Minnesota, and I am also not sure if the laws are state to state or not. But anyway the required age to go to the gynecologist is 21, but you can certainly make an appointment if you are younger. But like I said in an earlier post, I'd have to talk to my parents to do that and that's not something I'm comfortable with unless its an emergency. ",

so you can roughly approximate her age from that.

For the purposes of your question, a rough estimate should suffice.

sewerrats · Mar 12, 2013 at 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Earlier on the thread, lady said: "I live in Minnesota, and I am also not sure if the laws are state to state or not. But anyway the required age to go to the gynecologist is 21, but you can certainly make an appointment if you are younger. But like I said in an earlier post, I'd have to talk to my parents to do that and that's not something I'm comfortable with unless its an emergency. ",

so you can roughly approximate her age from that.

For the purposes of your question, a rough estimate should suffice.

she see,s pretty clued up, i come from England and 16 is an age for legal sex , an she could go to any gyno without her parent say, free of charge.

lady1158 · Mar 12, 2013 at 09:00 PM

I thought it said my age somewhere on here, I'm 18 years old.

bighands · Mar 13, 2013 at 11:12 AM

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I thought it said my age somewhere on here, I'm 18 years old.

Thanks. "Rough estimates" of age are NOT adequate when talking about these things if the person is a minor. So, knowing that you're 18 and not 16 or even younger is a huge difference.

There is no minimum age for when you can or have-to see a gyn. You go if there is a need and once you are sexually active, there is a need. If you are really 18, then you don't need your parents permission or consent to go to a gyn. They don't have to know about it at all BUT if you're on their insurance, then they are going to eventually find out unless you pay out of pocket and don't use their insurance. But that could end up costing you a few hundred bucks.

All that said, at 18, you are an adult and your parents need to understand that you are sexually active. Why are you so set on not talking to them about this? Some other issues going on?

My daughter is also 18.

hamster-bamster · Mar 13, 2013 at 11:21 AM

If consent age was the reason for the question, that varies by state.

lady1158 · Mar 13, 2013 at 11:34 AM

Yes the insurance matter was what I was concerned about. One thing I might do is go on my own insurance; I can get on my own insurance for free in the town I live in. The reason I don't want to talk to my parents is 1) it'll be very awkward 2) It's none of their business and 3) I like to keep my sex life to myself mostly. If I tell my mom, she'll tell my dad, and they'll both bring it up to my sisters, and who knows who they will talk to about it? My family is not known for their discretion. I'd just rather handle this issue on my own.

bighands · Mar 13, 2013 at 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by lady1158

Yes the insurance matter was what I was concerned about. One thing I might do is go on my own insurance; I can get on my own insurance for free in the town I live in. The reason I don't want to talk to my parents is 1) it'll be very awkward 2) It's none of their business and 3) I like to keep my sex life to myself mostly. If I tell my mom, she'll tell my dad, and they'll both bring it up to my sisters, and who knows who they will talk to about it? My family is not known for their discretion. I'd just rather handle this issue on my own.

Yes, unfortunately, families with good support systems require good communication and discretion. Remember this if/when you have a family of your own. Discussions like this are always awkward but if you can get past that and trust each other to keep info confidential, it can make a good family even closer. You should definitely look into your own insurance and get to the doctor.

Good luck!

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lady1158 Member Member Since Mar 2013 Location: Minnesota Posts: 65 11 3 hugs given	Mar 08, 2013 at 12:37 PM #21 It usually becomes less painful after a while.
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lady1158 Member Member Since Mar 2013 Location: Minnesota Posts: 65 11 3 hugs given	Mar 11, 2013 at 12:00 PM #25 That might be true. I have had one previous sexual partner who wasn't as big as my current one and it still hurt to have sex, but not as much as it does now..
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sewerrats Account Suspended Member Since Nov 2010 Location: ENGLAND Posts: 2,609 13 8 hugs given	Mar 11, 2013 at 12:46 PM #27 My wife has a slight prolaspe that makes some position,s in sex painful, an internal at the gp would tell that.
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lady1158 Member Member Since Mar 2013 Location: Minnesota Posts: 65 11 3 hugs given	Mar 12, 2013 at 09:52 AM #31 Don't worry I'm plenty lubricated by the time we actually do anything. My boyfriend usually goes down on me and has me orgasm before we have sex. I think you have a point, though, which my doctor always made. If I keep expecting pain I'm going to keep experiencing it and it just becomes a vicious cycle. But I don't know how to get around that.
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lady1158 Member Member Since Mar 2013 Location: Minnesota Posts: 65 11 3 hugs given	Mar 12, 2013 at 09:00 PM #36 I thought it said my age somewhere on here, I'm 18 years old.
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