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Mar 20, 2013 at 05:46 AM
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I am not into *** play but I wonder if i should just grin and bear it . . . after all we all make sacrifices for our partner do we not? When do I draw the line and tell her that I am not into this? It's not hurting me and my safety is not at risk, so perhaps I could let her have her fun?
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Mar 20, 2013 at 07:02 AM
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Hi there, if you're not into it then I think you need to be honest and say so...If she loves you, wants to see you comfortable and actually enjoying it then I'm sure she'll listen...just say, hey I'd really like it if you do it this way or you know, I really like it when...I dunno, figure out a way but if you're not comfortable then say something...after all it is your body
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Mar 20, 2013 at 07:50 AM
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Mar 20, 2013 at 08:35 AM
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She has let me do something that she's not particularly into and I have mentioned this in a previous thread, so I feel like I owe her one. But I don't think I will ever be into this, and it does make me a little uncomfortable because she is essentially treating me like an object.
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Mar 20, 2013 at 09:55 AM
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Mar 20, 2013 at 11:45 AM
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Is there an acceptable anatomical term for your "****?" And can she explain why exactly this is fun?
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Mar 20, 2013 at 11:45 AM
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I agree...if either one of you isn't comfortable with something, I don't think it should be done. I don't think trading one uncomfortable act for another is going to be wise in the long term either.
 Nothing at all wrong with trying new things, and indeed, it might be a pleasant surprise trying new things, so to speak. But if you have a limit, you have a limit. Mutual respect of each other's limits is a good thing to have in a relationship. EDIT: God I HATE my campus internet!  I'll try to have a moderator get rid of the extras. Sorry about that.
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Mar 21, 2013 at 02:08 AM
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I agree. Be honest, don't go beyond your boundaries but don't be afraid to try new things. You might find a better place to hide your keys.
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Mar 21, 2013 at 08:20 PM
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There are boundaries, and an*l, especially when the male is receiving, is not something to be taken lightly. Do not feel obligated to do this simply because she's done something for you that she didn't like. It will only leave the two of you unhappy.
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Mar 22, 2013 at 03:41 PM
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be very careful. If you already know this makes you feel like an object then then it might not be the best choice for you. Some guys like **** and others do not. we all have preferences. It is not up to her to decide what she wants for you to receive. If you tried it and don't like it then there is not much of a need to try it again. If how ever you have not tried it you might like it, or just the thought of it may be enough to you from going somewhere you are not supposed to go. We all have boundaries and if we push our own boundaries then we only hurt ourselves. If we allow others to push them then we hurt ourselves and it affects the way we see the person we are with. That kind of emotional hurt my friend doesn't leave when the person you are with moves on. If things don't work out w/ you two the feeling of being used and allowing it stays w/ you forever.
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Mar 23, 2013 at 05:04 PM
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As a general rule, what your lover does to you is often what she (subconsciously) wants you to do to her.
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