Having a difficult day coping

May 27, 2013 at 04:38 AM

Last night I had a dream about having sexual encounters with a man in a car. The dream basically set the tone for the day and after trying my best to avoid anything to trigger any sexual desire, which is difficult since it is always on my mind, I just had to have this dream.
Waking up from it left me craving it and I don't know what to do, except to try and not do the usual. I've tried looking up help for sex addicts and unhealthy sex fetishes, but found it only worsened the problem. Instead of it helping, it made me want to do it even more. The thought of it is enough to make me want it. It really doesn't take much.
I'm starting to think perhaps I have a problem I never really knew I had. I was always a warm blooded person and I thought it was a good thing since my partner won't complain one day, but at the moment, being single and wanting to wait with such things until marriage it really is becoming a problem. It isn't something I can control. Or I can, but I don't know how.

frustratedga · May 27, 2013 at 09:19 AM

I am struggling with this today too. I am choosing to be celibate after a terrible breakup. My appetite is growing again and masturbation is not cutting it any more.

hamster-bamster · May 29, 2013 at 01:38 AM

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Originally Posted by BrokenAngelWings

Last night I had a dream about having sexual encounters with a man in a car. The dream basically set the tone for the day and after trying my best to avoid anything to trigger any sexual desire, which is difficult since it is always on my mind, I just had to have this dream.
Waking up from it left me craving it and I don't know what to do, except to try and not do the usual. I've tried looking up help for sex addicts and unhealthy sex fetishes

sex fetishes, to the extent I understand the situation because I do not have them, are in general not unhealthy. However, having an erotic dream is not a sex fetish. This is a second post I am reading from you and in both cases you seem to imply that there is some kind of rational purpose to your plan to abstain from having sexual thoughts, so it would be really helpful if you could verbalize it and give us some context, because in general masturbating after an erotic dream is the way to go and it is weird that you did not go that way. But maybe you had a reason for not masturbating - so explain it, because it is not in any way self-evident.

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Originally Posted by BrokenAngelWings

I'm starting to think perhaps I have a problem I never really knew I had.

I agree - it seems that you have a problem of setting unrealistic plans, expectations, and goals without thinking them through.

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frustratedga New Member Member Since May 2013 Posts: 3 11	May 27, 2013 at 09:19 AM #2 I am struggling with this today too. I am choosing to be celibate after a terrible breakup. My appetite is growing again and masturbation is not cutting it any more.
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