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I dreaded this thread for some time now. After today's therapy session I am a hot mess! To address or to not address it, is the big issue right now. I thought that I could leave my erotic transference at the door, that was until I sat down and my entire body was shaky at the site of her. Yep this SUCKS! Not to mention that I have not even asked her yet if she was okay dealing with a lesbian client as she is straight. Now these stupid feelings are throwing themselves into my face. I think she can tell what's happening but wants me to come out and say it? She even said that I was ready to start seeing her every 2 weeks, instead of every week. Yes that hurt a bit, but it is probably for my own good. But if she knows this transference is accuring why won't she hurry it along and why doesn't she come out and just ask me about it. I'm not in love with her at all. I just think she is gorgeous and I feel like a little school boy(girl) around her and its making me look and sound rediculous and is probably hindering my therapy. SOME HELP HERE PLEASE and thank you!!
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Well I am straight but I also think that my female therapist is gorgeous, warm, funny, and a whole host of other wonderful things. I realize very well that if I were a man, I would really be into her.
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It would hinder it due to the fact I kinda go numb when I see her. Blank in the face and today and I almost dropped my drink out of pure nervousness! I couldn't even process my own thoughts to relay them correctly. If I come out with this I risk losing her.... Ugh!
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So, yes, it is quite serious. Agreed. I do not agree that you would risk losing her if you come out - you are having a garden variety case of transference and she has definitely gotten training on how to deal with it. |
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There is a forum here on Psychotherapy and a Sub-Forum on what you are dealing with:
Romantic Feelings Toward My Therapist - Forums at Psych Central I think it would provide a better venue for your thread. More narrowly to the point. |
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My new T even told me that his T friend automatically refers clients if he finds out they have transference going on (erotic, I assume). He said he was trying to discourage his friend from this pov...I think his T friend needs more therapy of his own. Ugh. |
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So your T's T friend automatically refers clients to... others. And what if the referred client then develops transference AGAIN? Would he/she be referred AGAIN? When will this road end?.. |
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Okay, me off my soap box, hugs Hamster! |
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I did not mention it to her yesterday, however yesterday felt different. I maybe slowly moving her from I want you status to you'd make a great mom for me, maybe? I finally told her of my mom issues. I now have to write a letter. We shall see how this plays out. Some of the things she said may my mind focus more on being a child. She compared me in age to her own child, even though I'm 10 yrs older. I think that was meaningful to help with the transference. Like I said pretty sure she gets what Im doing/transference without me having disclose it. One day at a time, now onto this letter. This will be the hardest letter I've ever had to write. Peace and love my friends.
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