[Hopefulgurl]

I dont know what to do with myself anymore. I haven't had sex in about 5 months and have not felt like having it any at all. In fact the thought of having sex makes me want to throw up. i have been married 8 years now and having sex has always been difficult for me. the thing is that before i got married my relationship where sex was concerned was fantastic. there was never a time when he wanted to or i wanted and i wasnt in the mood. Now i cant even stand thinking about it. I am not attracted to anyone else and i am not thinking about an outside relation but still why have i stopped wanting sex?

[adam_k]

Is sex not satisfying for you anymore? Maybe it has become boring. I have been with my wife for 8 years and it was great in the bgeinning and then things went south for a while. We had sex like once a month or once every couple months. It was a combination of me feeling depressed, stressed over school and her gainins weight and feeling less attracted to her. Thing are better now (sex wise), but it took a little work and some interest. Being romantic and passionate helps. Some soft kissing and making her feel good. That works for us.

[Hopefulgurl]

Thank you for responding to my post. I think that what changed for me is the fact that i feel like i am in a position where i have no control over my life and where it is headed. its a feeling of hopelessness which i cant even describe. I am depressed and stressed all the time. Sex is the last thing on my mind and the longer i keep myself from my husband the more pressure i feel that i have to give in even though i do not want to. he has not pleased me in bed for years now. He is in fact the most boring partner i have ever had. I dont know how to change things and its driving me crazy.

[hamster-bamster]

It is a psychological issue (or a set of psychological issues). It is not "no sex drive".