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#81
Yes, but it doesn't necessarily meant it's BDSM. There are many people who use ropes and blindfolds and paddles but do not practice BDSM. That's more getting kinky in a vanilla sense. Vanilla meaning not into BDSM or into "normal" or "boring" sex.
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i'm always open to IM's
Tying them up and blindfolding might be something done between a D/S... but it could also include a simple servitude between the Submissive and her/his Dom/me . The submissive needing to serve the dom, the need to serve as part of his/her own pleasure. Being controlled. Not having to think for oneself... *bliss*.. would be so nice. |
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#83
I am a fetlife user and from what I've read it's not an easy thing at all. It's not just about not having to think for yourself. It's pretty complicated and I think it takes very special people to make a meaningful relationship out of it, but for some, they just want to be ordered around and whipped, nothing meaningful just pure discipline.
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#84
My new fantasy is to have sex with a french woman in white lingerie as she whispers French in my ear.
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#85
i'm not really a pain s*** ... for me it would be more of a day to day thing and go far past the punishment 'ooh ive been a bad girl' crap.
Truthfully i would imagine being a f/t dom/me to be amazingly difficult. I worked for a domme for awhile and she had to constantly take her sub's emotional and physical needs into consideration. Sure he kneeled down to her each day he came home, serviced her as she required but like many subs, needed constant reminders of his importance etc. Subs can be a fragile lot. |
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#86
Subs are very fragile. They need constant attention, but doms need to be taken care of too. These relationships can become very intense very quickly, so that's why they are so hard to maintain. Boundaries can be pushed without realizing it and can easily ruin a scene.
Personally, I cannot take pain at all. Even as a joke my best friend started whacking me with my riding crop and it freaked me out seeing her raise my own tool against me, this was over a year ago and it still makes me nervous. Maybe when I am more confident I will share about my fantasies again, I've been dying for an excuse to take photos again. |
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#87
Oh okay. We do that. I guess it's still boring sex though Haha.
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#89
Yeah, most relationships have a dom/sub, even if it isn't kinky. Usually the man is the dom and the woman is the sub, but that's not always the case. And to spice things up couples will try kinky things like using toys or paddles or roleplaying, but BDSM is more of a lifestyle people live all the time.
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#90
Interesting. I would say I'm more submissive.
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#91
To be honest I see myself as submissive, but that I need to be in control during sex. My counselor and I are going to work on my fear of sex and hopefully I'll be more confident in sex.
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#92
Wow, I wouldn't have put you down as someone who's afraid of sex.
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#93
I'm actually a virgin, to be honest. I picture my first time as one of my worst experiences, being painful and traumatic and involves me crying. I'm hoping counseling will change this thinking.
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#94
A remembered safe word does indeed offer some control (as does a hidden 2x4 just in case)
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#95
Although, I am my best sex partner. I've done things with myself while masturbating that my best friend would never do with a boyfriend. I'm very confident in myself as a sex partner. But introducing an outsider to my body seems scary to me.
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i know i was fully disappointed by my first time.. though i was 13 , neither of us knew that much.
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#98
A safe word is hard to have when you're tied up and gagged. I never thought about it.
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#99
My biggest fears is him breaking up with me afterward, abandonment. I know it's normal for people to have more than one partner, but I can't wrap my head around it. I just want a really meaningful relationship established before I have sex. I am also worried that my fantasies are too large to really fulfill. Not just my kinky fantasies, just my expectations of how sex should go. Like, first we get naked, preferably in the shower. But I think if he were to wrap his body around me I'd freak out that his junk is touching me. It's just too scary to think about right now. Let's just stick to fantasies.
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#100
I can't see it. I think when you meet the right guy things will click and you will feel comfortable. I remember my first time felt akward and I didn't really now what to do. You get more comfortable the more you do it.
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