Your ultimate fantasy/partner

LiteraryLark · Jun 24, 2013 at 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ArmyGirl

A safe word is hard to have when you're tied up and gagged. I never thought about it.

I read that try to hold on to a ping pong ball while bound and gagged and then drop it as your safeword, or to make certain noises or grunts while gagged.

Poppy Princess · Jun 24, 2013 at 09:59 PM

Sometimes I let her hurt me a little. I don't mind the whip stinging or my hair being pulled.

LiteraryLark · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:02 PM

I think the one painful thing I'd really love to do is to use nipple clamps.

hamster-bamster · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by DrSkipper

I think the one painful thing I'd really love to do is to use nipple clamps.

I bought them once at a seedy shop in SF as a decoration. They are horribly painful. I would not ever put them on again. But I am not into BDSM - I just wanted what looked like a curious way to decorate the chest. I now use necklaces for that purpose and the decoration is there without any pain.

Poppy Princess · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:06 PM

Never did those. I sometimes write my fantasies down. I'm not going to post them here though.

adam_k · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:07 PM

My wife tried those. That is the only time i saw her have a squirting orgasm without using her favorite vibrating egg. The clamp had a chain that went up to a leather collar. She was very pleased.

LiteraryLark · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:11 PM

Wow, I didn't know they were that orgasmic. Honestly, tmi, I really like tugging at my nipples. But Hamster makes a good point, they can be very painful, so I have to make sure I use one that are more dull or less painful.

LiteraryLark · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:13 PM

Do you ever fantasize about being the opposite sex and having sex as the opposite sex?

hamster-bamster · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by DrSkipper

I am also worried that my fantasies are too large to really fulfill. Not just my kinky fantasies, just my expectations of how sex should go. Like, first we get naked, preferably in the shower. But I think if he were to wrap his body around me I'd freak out that his junk is touching me. It's just too scary to think about right now. Let's just stick to fantasies.

I am worried, too, because you have a whole laundry list of expectations, and every item on your list reduces the range of options for you. So I am afraid that by adding more and more to the list, you might eventually drive the range of options down to zero for yourself. Also, you seem to be quite unusual in that you fantasize about some really unusual things that involve power, paddles, and other such things and yet at the same time thinking about a guy's penis touching you (which is not something unusual and is quite mundane for most people) is too scary. This is just fascinating, of course, but seems to be highly unusual, and the more unusual you are, the harder it is to find a match. Not impossible, but just that - much harder.

hamster-bamster · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by DrSkipper

Wow, I didn't know they were that orgasmic. Honestly, tmi, I really like tugging at my nipples. But Hamster makes a good point, they can be very painful, so I have to make sure I use one that are more dull or less painful.

I bought mine in a seedy shop in SF passing by and being curious, on an impulse. It is quite possible that by reading consumer reports online carefully, and/or by asking sales assistants at a high quality sex shop, you can find gentler ones. Keep us posted then!

adam_k · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:22 PM

The ones we have are like aligator clips but they have a rubber coating and ther is an adjustment screw so they aren't too tight. She says pain gets her endorphines up and makes everything feel better.

LiteraryLark · Jun 24, 2013 at 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

I am worried, too, because you have a whole laundry list of expectations, and every item on your list reduces the range of options for you. So I am afraid that by adding more and more to the list, you might eventually drive the range of options down to zero for yourself. Also, you seem to be quite unusual in that you fantasize about some really unusual things that involve power, paddles, and other such things and yet at the same time thinking about a guy's penis touching you (which is not something unusual and is quite mundane for most people) is too scary. This is just fascinating, of course, but seems to be highly unusual, and the more unusual you are, the harder it is to find a match. Not impossible, but just that - much harder.

Fantasies are just an outlet, they are just fantasies and it masks the underlying issues. I intend on discussing my fantasies and fetishes with my counselor to uncovering the real issues troubling me and build up self-confidence. She even gave me the number to a sex counselor who is said to be really good. I built up my fantasies to hide from what's really bugging me. Most of my fantasies are just phases and I will likely grow out of them.

Although, I've spent $500 on paraphernalia and I'd like to put them to good use. I think with my certain fantasy it will be fairly easy to get him on board with it as long as he is into submission. Submission is surprisingly common in men, and I think that a submissive guy would love to be subdued by me no matter what uniform I wear. The controversy of the uniform might just make the outfit that much hotter. For now, I have my uniform hidden under my bed. I haven't actually worn the uniform in months.

hamster-bamster · Jun 25, 2013 at 12:28 AM

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My biggest fears is him breaking up with me afterward, abandonment.

Do you realize that you might initiate the break-up? Probably with as much ex ante likelihood? Meaning - you might be as likely to leave him as he might be likely to leave you.

LiteraryLark · Jun 25, 2013 at 09:54 AM

Either way, I'll still end up alone after becoming intimate and giving my body to someone else. I don't want to talk about it anymore.

UnderTheRose · Jun 25, 2013 at 05:22 PM

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Either way, I'll still end up alone after becoming intimate and giving my body to someone else. I don't want to talk about it anymore.

Life has a way of being unpredictable.. you just never know. Sometimes you'll end up alone and wish you weren't and sometimes you'll end up with someone and wish you weren't

LiteraryLark · Jun 25, 2013 at 11:34 PM

Brad Pitt, but only in Inglourious Basterds. I don't seem to like him in any other film. But he makes a damn good Yankee.

Poppy Princess · Jun 26, 2013 at 01:06 PM

You don't like Brad Pitt in Fight Club?

LiteraryLark · Jun 26, 2013 at 02:45 PM

I've never watched Fight Club. I don't really like his hair when it's long.

Poppy Princess · Jun 26, 2013 at 02:46 PM

It's not long in Fight Club. You have to watch it. You'll LOVE him in it.

LiteraryLark · Jun 27, 2013 at 11:44 AM

Johnny Depp is interesting, because I only like him in character, I don't really fantasize about him just as Johnny Depp.

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Poppy Princess Account Suspended Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Salem, N.H. Posts: 1,400 11 157 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 09:59 PM #102 Sometimes I let her hurt me a little. I don't mind the whip stinging or my hair being pulled.
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 10:02 PM #103 I think the one painful thing I'd really love to do is to use nipple clamps.
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Poppy Princess Account Suspended Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Salem, N.H. Posts: 1,400 11 157 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 10:06 PM #105 Never did those. I sometimes write my fantasies down. I'm not going to post them here though.
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adam_k Poohbah Member Since Jan 2013 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 1,275 11 388 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 10:07 PM #106 My wife tried those. That is the only time i saw her have a squirting orgasm without using her favorite vibrating egg. The clamp had a chain that went up to a leather collar. She was very pleased. __________________ "Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy."
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 10:11 PM #107 Wow, I didn't know they were that orgasmic. Honestly, tmi, I really like tugging at my nipples. But Hamster makes a good point, they can be very painful, so I have to make sure I use one that are more dull or less painful.
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 10:13 PM #108 Do you ever fantasize about being the opposite sex and having sex as the opposite sex?
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adam_k Poohbah Member Since Jan 2013 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 1,275 11 388 hugs given	Jun 24, 2013 at 10:22 PM #111 The ones we have are like aligator clips but they have a rubber coating and ther is an adjustment screw so they aren't too tight. She says pain gets her endorphines up and makes everything feel better. __________________ "Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy."
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 25, 2013 at 09:54 AM #114 Either way, I'll still end up alone after becoming intimate and giving my body to someone else. I don't want to talk about it anymore.
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 25, 2013 at 11:34 PM #116 Brad Pitt, but only in Inglourious Basterds. I don't seem to like him in any other film. But he makes a damn good Yankee.
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Poppy Princess Account Suspended Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Salem, N.H. Posts: 1,400 11 157 hugs given	Jun 26, 2013 at 01:06 PM #117 You don't like Brad Pitt in Fight Club?
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 26, 2013 at 02:45 PM #118 I've never watched Fight Club. I don't really like his hair when it's long.
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Poppy Princess Account Suspended Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Salem, N.H. Posts: 1,400 11 157 hugs given	Jun 26, 2013 at 02:46 PM #119 It's not long in Fight Club. You have to watch it. You'll LOVE him in it.
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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Jun 27, 2013 at 11:44 AM #120 Johnny Depp is interesting, because I only like him in character, I don't really fantasize about him just as Johnny Depp.
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