Your views on fetishes and the BDSM lifestyle

lynn P. · Jul 03, 2013 at 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Phreak

Perhaps somebody who by admission is not into fetishes should be hesitant before giving advice to others.

Whilst safewords can be useful, the traffic light system is better in my opinion.

Safewords can be incredibly dangerous. Having good communication and judgement is far more important.

Having a safeword can lead the inexperienced to not use commonsense and judgement. I.e. Continuing to whip somebody to the point they're so high on endorphorines that they don't actually want you to stop.

Oh you didn't know that? Exactly!

Just because I'm not into fetishes doesn't mean I can't have opinions and try to help. I also don't claim to know everything. Agreeing to a safeword is better than nothing for someone trying it 1st time like Illegal Toilet. Dr. Skipper didn't say "only people who have fetishes can answer." The traffic light system are still safe words, to make sure no one regrets anything.

There are some people who've posted questions here and in the Q&A section, who feel ashamed of their fetishes. There's been 2 cases of men here posting about diaper fetishes and they were so worried about being called a weirdo - I had empathy and welcomed them here. People can take or reject what I have to say, but I have a fair amount of life wisdom to pass on. All I was saying - fetishes are fine as long as no one gets hurt.

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