Sex=love?

I am married with a 2 year old and I can't stop looking for strange men and women to sleep with online. I am bipolar and get the urge to get sexual approval from strangers. I have tried to get to the root of the problem in therapy, but can't find the source or how to control my self. Is there anyone else who has this problem? It is ruining my marriage and yet I still find my self sleeping with men.

Hello, kinkcray.



I am hoping you get feedback from the forums you have posted in. Another forum you might post in to receive feedback for your problems is the following link:Addictions - Forums at Psych Central

At this time, I only other resources I can think of is Sex Anonymous(I am not familiar with how many groups there are in the US and which cities would support that group.) It's a twelve step program with some cognitive type behaviour therapy as it goes through what the twelve steps are involved in assisting you work out your possible addiction.

Those are the only sources of resources that could provide a trial, a clue to the solutions you require to solve your dilemma. I sincerely hope you find a way to work through all this and maximize your true potential as a human being.!

As the saying goes, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

Please respect the original poster and their question/concerns and do NOT take this thread off-topic. Thank you!

Not sure what could cause this issue. Possible sex addiction. Sex does feel nice and it could be a way feel good. You could also be engaging in self sabotaging acts.

My wife had a couple of online affairs and that is what she was doing to herself. Maybe it was to boost her self esteem, or maybe she feels like she isn't worthy or being with me and she tried to ruin it. I don't know but from my end it doesn't matter. The first time I caught her having phone sex and the second time was a naked picture. I almost left her, so I can't imagine what you husband is going through with what you are doing.

My recommendation is to learn impulse control. I have depression and I often get suicidal ideation. It is one thing to have thoughts, but I know I can't give in to those thoughts and urges. Your situation is different in that your problem only causes issues to your marriage and not you well being (std's or dangers of meeting strange men aside). I would find a way to curb these urges before your marriage is ruined.

When my wife did what she did, there wasn't much thought about the consequences. She is also unable to suppornt herself if we seperated. She hasnet worked in over 2 years, despite her outstanding student loan debt and me urging her to find work. She still did what she did despite that it could have led her to being much worse off.

Maybe you love the power you feel or the thrill of being able to do anything you want without being judged. You may also love the attention you get from this or even the compliments.