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Trig Jul 18, 2013 at 02:41 AM
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My T suggested something to me last time I saw her. Long story short, my partner was molested when she was 7 and then when she was 15. Then she had a boyfriend who was very possesive and used the "if you love me you will submit to my every desire"....... Well we've been together for 6 years, she enjoys sex with me but She has never had an orgasm.

Well my T suggested I'd buy one of those strap-ons and let her be "the man" and take me. As in making her be the dominat one.

Can't say I'm really thrilled with this idea since I don't really like to be "taken" and I've never enjoyed sex with men. I'm willing to do it though and a tiny part of me thinks it will be hot.

But my question is, will this be good for her? I didn't really discuss it well with my T because she mentioned it towards the end of our session. And I won't see her again until next week, so any suggestions will be appreciated
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Wow. That's pretty intense to just say, "Here, go try on a strap on and see if she likes it."

Strap-ons can be really intimidating for both you and the person wearing it.

Even though it's one of my fantasies, I think I'd be feeling awkward at first to stand in front of my partner or even the mirror with a dildo dangling between my legs, and I think it'd be awkward at first to for my partner to see me with a dildo on.

I'd try something else first, perhaps her using blindfolds on her, having her on top of you giving orders, having her feed you, etc. Start with the basics of dominance, I just think strap ons can be intense, but you can bring it up and see if she is into it.

But if you do go with the strap-on, be sure to vocalize what you are and aren't comfortable with regarding the dildo and the way she uses it. You may want to start with a nude color or even a non-realistic color like green or color depending on what would make you feel comfortable. I would start at 4 or 5 inches, you don't want to go too big too fast. You would have to take her to pick out a harness, as harnesses come in all shapes, material, and sizes. Then I would discuss how she should use it. Personally, I'd start with oral first to get used to it before trying an*l. Be sure you pick up specifically an*l lube, not just regular lube. You also might want to pick up a small butt plug to wear right before you use the strap-on to get you physically prepped for it.
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