Fantasies in the 3rd person.

Jul 19, 2013 at 04:04 PM

When you think of having sex with someone, do you view yourself like you're watching a movie.

Big Mama · Jul 19, 2013 at 04:32 PM

Sometimes I do Lycanthrope. It is like I am watching me be me, not really being me if that makes since.

hamster-bamster · Jul 19, 2013 at 04:53 PM

Sometimes, I am able to hold a first person and a third person perspective simultaneously in my mind, and like it this way.

Other times, just in the first person.

Poppy Princess · Jul 19, 2013 at 05:02 PM

Always first person.

Jul 21, 2013 at 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

When you think of having sex with someone, do you view yourself like you're watching a movie.

it feels like i'm the one who's getting hurt and the people are just exploiting me.

Jul 22, 2013 at 02:05 AM

It's third person sometimes.

Most of the time it's not me, it's my fantasy self with my fantasy partner.

Big Mama · Jul 22, 2013 at 07:44 AM

Me to Illegal toilet. I look much better in my fantasy.

Jul 23, 2013 at 05:51 PM

When I fantasize, it's always in third person and it's almost never me as myself as then it gets too real and gives me a lot of anxiety. I feel much better if I am playing a character with a different name than my real one.

hamster-bamster · Jul 23, 2013 at 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Big Mama

Me too, Illegal toilet. I look much better in my fantasy.

Like your younger self, or, completely different? I have read about people who fantasize about being different, but cannot get how it might be possible. It is almost as if there were a different persona that is being played out via fantasy.

I do though picture myself looking the way I used to look if I go back in time (to real life situations from the past). I think it kind of makes sense.

Big Mama · Jul 23, 2013 at 08:39 PM

hamster, in my mind it is that pretty me, the skinny me, before three 9 lb babies.

hamster-bamster · Jul 23, 2013 at 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Big Mama

hamster, in my mind it is that pretty me, the skinny me, before three 9 lb babies.

Oh my, I hear you!

Only one of mine - the third/last one - weighed 9 lbs though. The others arrived at 6-7 lbs.

But still! Hear you, hear you!

hamster-bamster · Jul 24, 2013 at 01:35 AM

PS I cannot see how people say that they assume another persona in their fantasy life. Going back in time still means staying within own identity - as opposed to assuming another persona. I am curious how people choose the persona (if they choose). Or does it just happen? An interesting thread, for sure.

Poppy Princess · Jul 26, 2013 at 12:21 PM

Well, I pretend I'm Doctor Who in my fantasies. All of them.

Jul 26, 2013 at 03:33 PM

I use characters that I make up (and possibly are from my writing) that would be similar to me (would be the version of me that would exist in the particular fantasy's universe), but be better than me in certain ways. In both looks and personality. I like fantasizing in a universe where I'm a capable of seducing someone. Or frankly, in a universe where I'm psychologically able to have sex. I mean, these are going to be my only sexual experiences, so I might as well try to make them good if I can.

bronzeowl · Jul 27, 2013 at 03:03 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

PS I cannot see how people say that they assume another persona in their fantasy life. Going back in time still means staying within own identity - as opposed to assuming another persona. I am curious how people choose the persona (if they choose). Or does it just happen? An interesting thread, for sure.

As for me personally, in my fantasies I become a completely different person. Sometimes it may be one of my own created characters (many of us writers are prone to getting emotionally attached to them, after all) and sometimes it will simply be myself but as I see myself from inside. Which is the opposite gender of the one I was born so in a way, quite different (yet not exactly leaving my own identity).

I have always fantasized as though I was watching myself. Though, to be honest, I have always thought in third person. Even when I day dream, I see myself in third person. When I write, I see every single character in third person. When I plot out a scene in a book, every character is in third person (I don't assume the persona of any of them). Seems natural that my fantasies would be in a similar manner.

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Anonymous200125 Guest Posts: n/a	Jul 19, 2013 at 04:04 PM #1 When you think of having sex with someone, do you view yourself like you're watching a movie.
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Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 11 646 hugs given	Jul 19, 2013 at 04:32 PM #2 Sometimes I do Lycanthrope. It is like I am watching me be me, not really being me if that makes since.
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 3,729 hugs given	Jul 19, 2013 at 04:53 PM #3 Sometimes, I am able to hold a first person and a third person perspective simultaneously in my mind, and like it this way. Other times, just in the first person.
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Poppy Princess Account Suspended Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Salem, N.H. Posts: 1,400 11 157 hugs given	Jul 19, 2013 at 05:02 PM #4 Always first person.
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Anonymous33211 Guest Posts: n/a	Jul 22, 2013 at 02:05 AM #6 It's third person sometimes. Most of the time it's not me, it's my fantasy self with my fantasy partner.
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Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 11 646 hugs given	Jul 22, 2013 at 07:44 AM #7 Me to Illegal toilet. I look much better in my fantasy.
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Anonymous50006 Guest Posts: n/a	Jul 23, 2013 at 05:51 PM #8 When I fantasize, it's always in third person and it's almost never me as myself as then it gets too real and gives me a lot of anxiety. I feel much better if I am playing a character with a different name than my real one.
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Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 11 646 hugs given	Jul 23, 2013 at 08:39 PM #10 hamster, in my mind it is that pretty me, the skinny me, before three 9 lb babies.
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hamster-bamster Account Suspended Member Since Sep 2011 Location: Northern California Posts: 14,805 (SuperPoster!) 12 3,729 hugs given	Jul 24, 2013 at 01:35 AM #12 PS I cannot see how people say that they assume another persona in their fantasy life. Going back in time still means staying within own identity - as opposed to assuming another persona. I am curious how people choose the persona (if they choose). Or does it just happen? An interesting thread, for sure.
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Poppy Princess Account Suspended Member Since Apr 2013 Location: Salem, N.H. Posts: 1,400 11 157 hugs given	Jul 26, 2013 at 12:21 PM #13 Well, I pretend I'm Doctor Who in my fantasies. All of them.
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