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Default Jul 28, 2013 at 12:01 PM
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Hello,

So last night my boyfriend tells that when he is wearing a condom that he is not able to feel much. Meaning that when I touch him he doesn't really feel it and that sex is ok but there is again not much feeling. Is this normal for guys? I don't think that he is trying to pressure me into having sex with a condom as I have already told him that I would not do it without him wearing one. It is something that we agreed on. I do want sex to be enjoyable for him. So here are my questions.

1.) Is this true? Is he not really feeling much due to wearing the condom?

2.) If so, is there any advice you can give me as far as positions or things that can be done to make this better?

Thank you!
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Default Jul 28, 2013 at 12:31 PM
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Yes its a common complaint and good for you. I agree he probably wasn't trying to convince you not to have one. Try the ones that say Ultra Thin or ones that enhance sensitivity for both partners. Here's a link to different kinds:

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Default Jul 28, 2013 at 07:02 PM
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Yes, what he says is absolutely true about condoms. As stated before, you can try different condoms. Some are better than others. However, I'll tell you honestly there is no way to solve this problem. Vaginas are ingeniously designed to make penises feel really good. Covering the penis with latex is never going to come close. As long as you are using condoms, sex will be significantly less enjoyable for him, and there is simply no way around that.
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Default Jul 28, 2013 at 08:45 PM
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In other words, either he wears the condom, or you don't have sex, and he wants to have sex.

"The only way a guy is gonna put a condom on is when the girl says 'I'm not gonna have sex with you until you put a condom on'" but he shouldn't complain, he should feel honored to have sex with you!

Watch the first five minutes of Girl Code on Contraception, they're pretty funny and there's some truth to it:

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Default Jul 29, 2013 at 05:33 PM
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My husband used to complain that having sex with a condom on was like taking a shower while wearing a raincoat. It is true that your vagina is designed to make him feel good and I am sure it does. When we were dating each other though when he did not want to wear a condom because he said he wouldn't feel as much, I told him that if he didn't he would get to feel anything at all. The bottom line really is do you want to end up pregnant. If you are at all fertile that is definitely a risk. In this respect not all women are alike. It also depends on your age. Things slow down after you are in your 30's.

After we were married 11 years ago I wanted to get pregnant ans we gave up condoms. Unfortunately it did not happen. Marriage is really the place for sex. It would be better to wait but if you are not going to, then \you need birth control if you do not want to get pregnant. If he is or has been sleeping with other girls, they are absolutely essential to keep you safe from STD's Like some of the other posters have indicated they do come in a variety of styles. I would at least try some different types
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Default Jul 29, 2013 at 09:44 PM
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In my experience, there are men who use condoms just fine without any complaints, and others who voice various complaints. In my admittedly small sample, the ability to experience lots of sensations while wearing a condom is not a function of anything - not of the size, not of the circumcised/intact status, and not of anything else. Too bad!

You were offered suggestions on different types - be aware of the fact that lambskin condoms do not protect against STI's. Other than that, there are a lot of options, and Amazon is supposedly being recommended for condom shopping price-wise (I have not shopped there, but it would make sense to try Amazon both for the cost and for consumer reviews).
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Default Jul 30, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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HollyC,

It's interesting that you ask a question about how much feeling there is for condom wearers and get answers almost exclusively from women. It's not bad. It's just interesting.

First of all, thank you. Thank you for caring about what your man feels. It means you are a good lover. Not all woman are that sensitive.

As a man, I will of course, confirm what they are saying about the amount of feeling there is when wearing one. Condoms do reduce that. Part of that is an emotional feeling though. You like to feel flesh-on-flesh as the maximum closeness if you're in a monogamous relationship and making love to someone you truly love. If it's casual sex, that's not a big deal.

All that said, it still feels wonderful. And if he loves you and wants to continue to have sex, it's not going to be a deal breaker even if it's not preferred.
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