I hate myself

I hate my gender so much. I have wanted to be different for ages. But my parents disagree and think I should just learn to accept who I am.
How do you accept yourself?

It's hard for me, too.

I believe I should have been a bisexual male, because I have always favored gay men and straight women. I am also angry that my straight best friend is going through a bisexual phase and will not choose me because I am "too close" to her and doesn't want to ruin the friendship. AKA Friendzoned.

Since high school I've had fantasies where I am the man with another man. Although I do not believe I am transgendered and do not want surgery because I cannot change the past, there are some things I can do.

I can use a strap-on, which has been my newest fantasy, as there are men who would enjoy being pegged by a woman. I can crossdress, which I have tried during high school and it did not work so well as I was unsure of who I was. I can be happy that I have boobs, because EVERYONE loves boobies no matter what gender or sexuality you are: people love boobs.

I think you might be depending on your parents too much, or they may have a point. I am not sure. Some people were truly a different sex in the wrong body. But some people just hate the gender they have because they have to live up to all these expectations that they can't seem to fulfill. When you are an adult you can choose to change your gender, but you can also learn that it won't change the past. You grew up a certain way in the body you have. You can't go back and date the people you wanted to date before. That was in the past. I can't tell you "this is how it's supposed to be and how you're supposed to feel". That's up to you to decide. Do you really want to accept that you weren't meant to be the opposite sex, or do you truly believe that you are the opposite sex in the wrong body?

It's a process, that's for sure. But what's important I've found is to not allow yourself to get too hung up on any one particular aspect of your person. Every person alive has parts of themselves that they wish they could change, I know I do!
However, I would suggest you try to look at your issues with gender as part of a larger whole. It's obviously an important aspect of who you are, but try and always be aware of your other qualities that you can feel content with.
Self-acceptance is something a lot of people strive for, me included. But it can be done one step at a time.
As for your parents, I tend to say that people should try to respect their Mothers and fathers. Just remember that at some point we all need to take step in the direction that makes us happy. Families should work together to understand and accept the choices each individual makes.
Good luck!

You won't be able to accept yourself at this juncture because you do not have a personal desire to do so - you are trying to act on your parents' recommendation that you accept yourself. That is unlikely to work.

Since the issue is so difficult, ideally you should be paired up with a competent therapist who, unlike your parents, would be neutral and professional. Your parents are vested in who you are (or, in who they think you should be) and lack the neutrality needed to advise you.

Would your parents not pay for therapy?