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Default Aug 06, 2013 at 04:07 AM
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Hi, I'm a 16 year old male and a virgin, and ever since I was 11 years old I've always had a high libido/sex drive, throughout all times of the day. My base hornyness (libido/sex drive) was always high. I assume it's always been high because I've never masturbated throughout my life (I have wet dreams, but the reason why I don't masturbate is another story, I'll save it for another forum post). A few weeks ago on the 15th of July, my libido just dropped, and has been really low ever since. My base libido is basically dead. However it would go up every now and then when talking with my online girlfriend (Shes more like an online friend with benifits). Anyway we broke up (decided to go back to just being friends) and now nothing turns me on at all. I think that made it worse, but before that my libido was already low, It just dropped for no reason on the 15th. I still get wet dreams, and in my wet dreams I can still get and feel horny like I used to. But while awake my libido is basically dead. This has put me in a depression. Girls, dirty pictures, ect don't turn me on anymore. I'm scared that my libido is going to stay low forever, if it does, I'll never be able to have/enjoy sex. If this is true my life is ruined, I feel so scared and depressed right now. I just want my old self back, my old high libido self. I don't know what's wrong with me but I want this problem solved, I don't know if this is just a temporary harmonal phase, or if somthing is wrong with me. It's been 3 weeks of having a dead libido, no sexual desire, girls don't turn me on anymore. If my libido is never going to go back to being the way it used to, then I don't want to live anymore. Imagine one day knowing that you'll never be able to enjoy/have sex and that you will die a virgin. This is really depressing me, someone please help. Please tell me that my libido will go back to normal.
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Looks like your new to PC, so welcome.
There could be many reasons behind this. You're certainly not the first person your age to experience something like this, but it's just not as common to hear about it because of the 'horny teenager' stereotype. If you're still getting hard and having wet dreams then I'd say everything's fine. If you're depressed or having other issues it can totally affect the libido. And of course, the more you worry about stuff the more you stress out and nothing kills the libido like stress.
I don't really know what to say. Is it also possible that you just don't have the right stimulation? You mentioned that when you were with your online girlfriend you still got horny from time to time. But I guess bottom line, if you're worried that it might be a functional problem then I would go to the doctor. And if you've got a therapist, talk to them. It could be psychological or physical, or it could just be a phase your body is going through. I'm 34 and I've had times in my life where I have no urge or desire at all, I don't even think about sex. Sometimes it's lasted for a couple of years. But when it comes back it's stronger than ever.

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Looks like your new to PC, so welcome.
There could be many reasons behind this. You're certainly not the first person your age to experience something like this, but it's just not as common to hear about it because of the 'horny teenager' stereotype. If you're still getting hard and having wet dreams then I'd say everything's fine. If you're depressed or having other issues it can totally affect the libido. And of course, the more you worry about stuff the more you stress out and nothing kills the libido like stress.
I don't really know what to say. Is it also possible that you just don't have the right stimulation? You mentioned that when you were with your online girlfriend you still got horny from time to time. But I guess bottom line, if you're worried that it might be a functional problem then I would go to the doctor. And if you've got a therapist, talk to them. It could be psychological or physical, or it could just be a phase your body is going through. I'm 34 and I've had times in my life where I have no urge or desire at all, I don't even think about sex. Sometimes it's lasted for a couple of years. But when it comes back it's stronger than ever.
Thank you, and I was the horny teenager stereotype, and I miss being it, I want it back. Having a high libido made me feel alive, and happy. I'm like a puzzle, every part of my mind and emotions are intact, except for one part, the puzzle piece of me that makes up libido, and I wan't it back. I won't be seeing my doctor for a few months, and I don't know how to convince my parents to spend money on a therapist, I feel extremely unconfterble telling them sexual things, I'd rather tell a stranger. And I don't want to be stuck with a low libido for several years. Years go by slower for a teenager than it does for an adult, and this is hurting me emotionally.

I was hoping that if I get out of depression my libido will go back up, but in order to get out of depression I want my libido back up the way it used to be.
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I think you're going to be fine and this is a brief stage you're going through. As spndiferous said .....stress and emotional state affects libido greatly. BTW wet dreams are a common medical occurrence for men. It happens even if men are having regular sex and doesn't necessarily means a man is deprived. Could be you're a little discouraged or stressed out.

I know men get very stressed when they think somethings wrong with the equipment but you're going to be fine. Relax, eat very healthy, do moderate exercise and some positive hobbies and before you know it, you'll be back to normal. Good luck.

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I think you're going to be fine and this is a brief stage you're going through. As spndiferous said .....stress and emotional state affects libido greatly. BTW wet dreams are a common medical occurrence for men. It happens even if men are having regular sex and doesn't necessarily means a man is deprived. Could be you're a little discouraged or stressed out.

I know men get very stressed when they think somethings wrong with the equipment but you're going to be fine. Relax, eat very healthy, do moderate exercise and some positive hobbies and before you know it, you'll be back to normal. Good luck.
When you say discouraged, can you expand on what you mean by that? Thanks.
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Hi, I'm a 16 year old male and a virgin, and ever since I was 11 years old I've always had a high libido/sex drive, throughout all times of the day. My base hornyness (libido/sex drive) was always high. I assume it's always been high because I've never masturbated throughout my life (I have wet dreams, but the reason why I don't masturbate is another story, I'll save it for another forum post). A few weeks ago on the 15th of July, my libido just dropped, and has been really low ever since. My base libido is basically dead. However it would go up every now and then when talking with my online girlfriend (Shes more like an online friend with benifits). Anyway we broke up (decided to go back to just being friends) and now nothing turns me on at all. I think that made it worse, but before that my libido was already low, It just dropped for no reason on the 15th. I still get wet dreams, and in my wet dreams I can still get and feel horny like I used to. But while awake my libido is basically dead. This has put me in a depression. Girls, dirty pictures, ect don't turn me on anymore. I'm scared that my libido is going to stay low forever, if it does, I'll never be able to have/enjoy sex. If this is true my life is ruined, I feel so scared and depressed right now. I just want my old self back, my old high libido self. I don't know what's wrong with me but I want this problem solved, I don't know if this is just a temporary harmonal phase, or if somthing is wrong with me. It's been 3 weeks of having a dead libido, no sexual desire, girls don't turn me on anymore. If my libido is never going to go back to being the way it used to, then I don't want to live anymore. Imagine one day knowing that you'll never be able to enjoy/have sex and that you will die a virgin. This is really depressing me, someone please help. Please tell me that my libido will go back to normal.
Probably just a phase. Ive also heard that if you dont masturbate eventually your libido can go own a bit, but you can always get it back. Might be hormones acting up. Stress and depression are also known to kill libido. If youve been feeling down because of your break up (or for whatever reason) then thats probably it. Itll come back, relax.
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It's been 3 weeks of having a dead libido, no sexual desire, girls don't turn me on anymore. If my libido is never going to go back to being the way it used to, then I don't want to live anymore. Imagine one day knowing that you'll never be able to enjoy/have sex and that you will die a virgin. This is really depressing me, someone please help. Please tell me that my libido will go back to normal.
I think you have underlying depression, because you are:

1) catastrophizing (you can look up CBT - cognitive behavior therapy - if you do not know this term)
2) expressing suicidal ideation
3) easily worried in an exaggerated fashion.

So it seems that you had started becoming depressed, and, as a result of that, lost your libido, and, with that, lost your enjoyment of life. Obviously, losing enjoyment of life would result in MORE depression and even LESS libido, and then a vicious circle.

As others have advised, do not panic, but do seek help, eat well etc.
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