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Aug 18, 2013 at 04:01 AM
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My boyfriend wants to have sex. He's 18. It's understandable.
i'm 16 (less than two years younger). I'm not 110% sure i'm mentally mature and strong enough to..... I want to.....but i'm scared I won't be able to cope..... so we've agreed to build up to it........ yet he's so respectful of my body and my wishes that he is waiting for me to make the first move....... but i don't know what to do. I'm too shy..... to frightened of doing the wrong thing and going too far but not being able to stop..... what do i do? |
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Aug 18, 2013 at 05:58 AM
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Maybe you're not ready yet, ingalot. Has he had intercourse with anyone else before?
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Aug 20, 2013 at 03:22 AM
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are you on birth control pill?
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Aug 25, 2013 at 09:23 PM
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I'd say if you are questioning it now, even before the act, then it's prob best to hold off. What's the rush? U can still be affectionate and intimate in other ways. I think it's best to wait- no regrets that way hun
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Aug 25, 2013 at 09:28 PM
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16 is quite young. I was 21 which is kinda old, I think but it was fine for me. When I was your age I would 'explore' with guys. No oral sex but pleasing guys with my hands. You don't need to have sex until you want to even though your BF is ready now.
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Aug 25, 2013 at 10:03 PM
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I agree with what's been said ingalot. If you're not 110% comfortable, I'd hold off. A "build up" approach could work, but it puts...how to say this...it sort of sets the expectation of an end goal in his mind, if you take my meaning, and I'm sure you're cognizant of that as well. Thus, I'm worried you'd be prone to hurry yourself along, so to speak, and end up with regrets, which we don't want for you. Do you follow my (admittedly pessimistic, but bear with me
 ) line of thinking?There's no rush, none at all. Don't commit to anything until you're 110% ready, and not a moment sooner. If he cares for you, truly cares, he'll understand. If he's behaving in the manner you say he is and genuinely means it, there should be no problem. Hugs, and I hope things go well, Harley __________________ The world suffers alot. Not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people.- Napoleon Bonaparte |
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