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Sep 11, 2013 at 02:18 AM
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I see many people on this forum talking about how they're masochistic due to a past event that was traumatizing, or emotional trauma. I understand how that sort of trauma could cause someone to be a masochist, however, I'm a masochist and I've never had any form of trauma. Is being a masochist just part of my sexuality, or is there a reason for it?
I mean, there must be something wrong with me, right? At least, that's what I've heard from most people. "Oh, you enjoy pain in a sexual way? You must have been horribly abused as a child and are now a crazy psychopath." |
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Sep 11, 2013 at 02:46 PM
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Not necessarily. I do enjoy taking pain in an erotic scenario from a loved one and I'm not even a masochist.
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Sep 11, 2013 at 02:53 PM
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I too like a bit of pain in a sexual scenario with a loved one. I totally trusted her and everything was fine. I was lucky in that I have not had a bad childhood and trauma free life, she liked to administer and I liked to recieve a few lashes, but she would never go too far, as I said I trusted her. If you are OK with it as I was it doesn`t mean that there is anything wrong with you, good luck, Dionysius.
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Sep 23, 2013 at 07:46 PM
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I'm a sub and masocist to an extent and I never had any trauma. I think its got a lot to do with u giving orders all day and at one point in life or the day you want to take it. But eh its not unusual or weird
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Sep 24, 2013 at 07:25 PM
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Actually, I've read that people who enjoy BDSM in relationships are most often psychologically healthy, sometimes even healthier than couples who have regular sex...I think it was in a psychology magazine. I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. I don't think that it's an issue as long as it's not causing excessive harm to yourself, your relationships and your well being.
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Member Since Nov 2013
Location: Germany
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Nov 13, 2013 at 05:42 PM
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Oh, no. Don't you mix up masochism with mental illness.
I'm glad it's not listed anymore as paraphilia in the DSM. It's only a sexual preference, nothing sick or alarming. |
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