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Oct 23, 2014 at 09:57 PM
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Say I talk about my interest in BDSM and latex fetish with my female counselor for a while. What if I asked my counselor to wear a black latex skirt? It would serve a purpose in terms of easing sexual frustration. Would she comply with that?
What if I asked her to send me a pic of her with duct tape over her mouth? It's for the same purpose. Would she comply with that too? |
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Oct 23, 2014 at 10:08 PM
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I highly doubt that she would comply, but she might discuss with you why you think those things would help you.
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Oct 23, 2014 at 10:19 PM
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If they did, it would be a pretty serious boundary violation.
A therapist's role is not to relieve your sexual tension for you. It's to help you understand it and deal with it yourself. Therapists are not supposed to become sexually involved with their clients, and that covers way more than just not having sex with them. This would definitely cross that boundary. |
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Oct 23, 2014 at 11:31 PM
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I sure hope not. It would be appropriate for your counselor to talk to you about what your fetish means for you. Acting out the fetish is a serious boundary violation. It is worth talking about your request, because the request itself does sound like a therapeutic issue. But an ethical counselor is not going to do anything sexual with you.
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Oct 24, 2014 at 06:39 AM
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As someone that has told his T (a woman) his deepest sexual secrets and desires, I have also secretly wished that at some point she would help me physically with my issues and indulge some of my fantasies. The reality is that I know that it will never happen, and rightly so, shouldn't happen.
It is hard not view the "non-judgemental" aspect of a therapist as a sign of acceptance. That "apparent acceptance" can breed attraction and attachment as the client feels that the T agrees and wants the same. I mean as humans, when we divulge our deepest sexual secrets and desires, it is normally to someone we are emotionally and sexually attracted to. And it doesn't help when they are attractive! |
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Oct 25, 2014 at 10:48 AM
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Oct 26, 2014 at 08:29 AM
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I think it would be inappropriate and a boundary violation if she complies, which she most probably wouldn't. You can definitely talk to her about it though and she'll help you to understand the underlying reasons.
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