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Lately, my boyfriend and I have been dealing with some trying relationship issues that has dampened our typically steamy sex life. I know that these things happen, but I find myself craving the intimacy and sex. I miss being chest to chest, kissing each other tenderly... I miss the sex itself immensely.
I've always felt so connected to my boyfriend during sex and so the disconnected feeling I'm having because of our other relationship issues is exacerbated. Is it a good idea to try and be intimate with each other during this time? I don't mean us having angry sex (which I feel is incredibly damaging), I mean us putting our issues aside for a while and just loving each other. Is this even possible to do? Any thoughts are greatly appreciated! Sent from my SPH-D710 using Tapatalk __________________ Am I the only one I know, waging my wars behind my face and above my throat? Diagnosed: BPD PTSD |
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I don't trust my partner to be nice and not hurt my feelings as much when we are in the middle of a fight, so I do not try to have intercourse with her at this time. Apparently the sex can be good during reconciliation though, so based on that my advice would be to try and make up and then have sex with him.
Of course, being a woman you have the added option of seducing him into intercourse which I have not tried because it doesn't work nearly as well for a man. Make him a sexual offer he cannot refuse. I think it would be possible to have sex with him in this way. Whether or not it's a good idea is another thing. |
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You crave closeness. Closeness and physical contact increase endorphin's which gives you a feel good feeling and a sense of calm. IT is not wrong ti want to increase the feeling of connection and closeness by cuddling, or saying, "can we just give our issues a rest and hold each other." That will help confirm your availability and exclusiveness to each other even when you might not get along. If it leads to sex that is ok. Most likely your mate will not object. If you can handle sex with someone you are odds with is the big question. Due to my past issues I cannot have sex with someone I am angry with or at odds with. It is damaging and triggering for me. But that is my issue. If you want to have sex and so does he then go for it. It might bring you closer together in this time of unrest.
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I agree with big mama!!
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