I have a micro penis and I hate myself

I actually am separated now Because of my situation She left me for a man with a bigger penis After being married for 15 years I thought It was accepted, Guess not everybody knows my deep dark secret And to be quite honest with you I just want to die. I just wish I could find somebody to get past me being so sad and so little Because I am a nice guy But nowadays that the help for nothing

You need some help. You are going through the grief of separation after a long-term marriage, and, are dealing with the size issue.

OK, now, let us do some exercises in being rational.

If your penis is indeed very small, then it is on the lower tail end of the normal distribution of penis size among males.

Therefore, most men would have penises that are bigger than yours. Most will be in the thick of the bell curve, and some will be on the opposite tail end of the bell curve. Draw a picture if that would help - draw the bell curve and position yourself towards the left tail end. See how much of the curve is to the right of "you"?

Now imagine that your wife left you for another man because he was funnier. Richer. Taller. Younger - or, any number of "er" - any number of other adjectives with in the comparative form.

So for the purposes of a hypothetical, let us say that the man is rich-ER.

What is the likelihood that the rich-ER man ALSO has a bigger penis. Very high - look at the picture again to see that most of the bell curve is to the right of you.

So the man is rich-ER and with a bigg-ER penis, but she left you for him because he is rich-ER, and your mind - given that the penis size is a long-standing problem of yours - interprets the event of her separating as a confirmation of the fact that your smaller penis is the culprit, overlooking the fact that the guy is rich-ER.

That, to the extent that it was your own assumption that she left for a man with a bigger penis.

If she actually verbalized it ("I am leaving for a man with a bigger penis. Ha!"), it STILL does not mean that she was telling you the truth. She might have been mad at your for something totally unrelated to sex, and, knowing your weak spot, she told you that she was leaving you for a man with a bigger penis. It was an act of aggression on her part - she aimed at your weak spot.

Why do you say that everybody knows your deep dark secret? Did the ex wife tell your circle of friends?

I prefer bigger penises (within reason - the ones in porn look ridiculous and stupid, rather than alluring) in how they look and how they feel to my hand, but my current partner is average and in the year that I have been with him, I have learned to appreciate the strength of his erections. I have come to realize that a smaller penis is just as able to become really hard from the blood flow, and I just enjoy it - say he puts my right hand on it, and I feel how hard he is - getting yet harder from my touching and caressing him - and that is fun enough for me. Intercourse is perfectly pleasant, too.

I am not saying that he is small - he is average - but to me, relative to my earlier men, he was small, and I have worked - intentionally - towards accepting it and finding it fun, and more or less I have succeeded. And, we do not have oral sex - neither do we want to, nor would it be a good idea safety-wise since we are not monogamous. If you add oral sex into the mix, as Secretum suggested, you will have even more ways of interacting with your girl sexually. So you should be OK.

You are asking how to find somebody to get past your being so sad and so little. You cannot change that you are little, but you can become less sad. I can tell you for sure that a fun, gregarious, bubbly guy would be well received socially no matter his penis size. But I do, do, do appreciate how much you have been hurt, especially if the ex wife actually said that she had left you for a bigger guy in order to hurt you.

Do you have children?

I am sorry you feel this way. I will tell you that other relationships that I've been in have been with men who are not endowed and it never mattered. There are other ways to please your partner, and I'm sure she was satisfied since she stayed for so long. Your size down south does not define who you are. Hang in there.

There's things you can purchase to help you in this department. There's penis sleeves, and penis extensions. It may take some looking into to find the right sizes for you, but I think you will find this useful. All hope is not lost here. To be honest, all you need is 4 inches to devour a woman's G-spot. I'm sure you can find sleeve/extensions to reach that. Not to mention, these items have bumps and grooves to help pleasure the partner.

I hope you find this useful to you now, or in the future.

I would also like to remind our orig poster that there are other ways to devour that g-spot too, and you don't have to be Gene Simmons (Kiss) to do that

Bigger isn't always better. I find oral sex much easier to perform on a less well endowed man. I find him less intimidating as well. Less intimidation leads to better sex in my case. A woman's vagina has majority of the sensation in the first 2 inches. That is where majority of the nerve endings are.

I agree w/ Hamster, did your wife just come out and say "I'm leaving for a guy with a bigger penis, and even if she did say that, who to say she didn't say it just to be mean.

Most women are aroused by external friction/contact, not the penetration itself

Rather have a great guy that a jerk hung like a horse

Amen on that one. I agree 100%.

She left you because you have a micro penis?! Well, you need someone with knowledge, someone less ignorant and who can be sensitive to others' feelings.
Sorry for the aggresivity, but I can't stand people who leave others because they have or lack something that shouldn't be relevant.
According to what I have read, the size of the penis doesn't matter when it comes to pleasure felt. The study was done by pioneering researchers Masters & Johnson. They did a huge study on human sexuality, and debunked a lot of myths, one of them being the size of the penis matters. It doesn't.
You shouldn't think you wanna die, you deserve to live, and a partner who can value who you are and what you can do, not some blue-ideal prince who doesn't exist but in chick-flicks and porno movies.
No offense, but you have no business being with people like that. You need something much higher and noble than that. And I am sure that person will appear.
Again, I apologize for my aggressivity, but it pains me a lot when things like this happen to others. I feel frustrated because I can never do anything to solv those problems in the world, but that's another story
What matter is you, and your thinking. I'd suggest you to see a therapist who can understand your situation and appreciate your sensitivity. She will make you see how worthy you are, and that the size of a penis is just like hair color or nose shape. Nothing to worry about
Best wishes always.

Very well said, I couldn't agree more. The value or a man or the value of the woman has nothing to do with the size of boobs or penises. We are all gifts from God and we are all made differently and we each deserve someone who can appreciate us for who we are not the size of the package, weather male of female.